I Really Miss My Grandad, He Died Last Year But I Dont Kno What To Do..?

Question

i just cant get over the fact that hes not here anymore and i am reminded of him on a daily basis...its kind of haunting me and i dont want to forget about him i just want to put all this to rest...

Answer 1

Time is a great healer little one, although you can't believe that now...this is Christmas,...and it would be nice to go to his grave, and put some beautiful red pointsiettas on his grave,....if you can..Remember this, that grampa knew you would be sad, and that he wouldn't have wanted you to go through life being sad that he is gone...He is sleeping now at peace,...and he would have wanted you to think of all the fun times, and laugh, and do the things you always promised you would do...you are going to be a grampa or gramma one day, and then you will know that it is alright to go on with your life for that is what they would want you to do...Please little one, pray to God, and to Jesus, for comfort, and strength...always remember Grampa with love and kindness...and do things that would have made him proud of you and in time, the healing will begin...it took me a couple of years before I got over feeling that sad about my darling daddy...and it has been eleven years...I still cry over sentimental things at the drop of a hat....God bless, and have a good holiday xxxx

Answer 2

I lost my grandmother 3 years ago November, and, I still have a hard time with it...Time does help heal and fill the voids, however, everyone is different and effects will vary from individual. You have to heal at your own rate-not what everybody else says and/or expects of you. And, in reality, you may never "get over" the whole incident, but, rather come to a certain sort of peace or calm with it. I try not to dwell on the fact that she is no longer physically here to share life with me-instead I "talk" to her-in my thoughts, etc...It may seem somewhat strange, but, to me, it makes me feel as if she's still close enough to hear and experience my trials and tribulations...My best advice to you would be to take this 1 day at a time, and don't put any expectations on "how long", etc...this may take...

Answer 3

first off i lost my father a year and a half ago. Yes it hurts badly and its always will if you think of him being "gone" always keep him alive in yo9ur life. In other words remember the memories of all the life lessons and such he taught you. It helped me to keep a picture of my dad in an area of the apt he would appreciate and when people came in i could show them.I would tell stories all kinds about him or his life.And after a year or so, it got easier.If its too overwhelming find something to do so your mind can exercise its mourning after some productive self building EX> things you are good at or enjoy.If you have unresolved issues with him,talk to him HE can STILL hear you.He is with you always.Sounds like you had a good relationship with him...be grateful for all the time you did have...i had no grandfathers active in my life...im happy for you that you do.my dad was my BEST FRIEND he was all i had.I act alot like him my boyfriend says,.. Ill bet you do the same,u probably dont realize it. hope its helps a little.i also agree with PBnJ

Answer 4

If you were really close to him in the sense that you and your Grandad talked to one another a lot maybe it would help if you still did that on paper. Why not do that in a journal and start it out with something like: Dear Grandad or the like and write to him like you would talk to him as if he were sitting right there with you and let him know what you are feeling and get all of this off your chest. It just might help you. It also might be helpful talking to other family members.

Answer 5

so that you havent been to college on the grounds that your grandad died? i'm truly sorry to take heed to about your loss. that is continuously very troublesome to conquer a loss and typically human beings by no skill do experience a similar after or thoroughly get over it. You do favor to save in ideas although that your grandad ought to opt for you to proceed college and to be courageous and powerful for some thing of your kinfolk. Crying isn't a foul element, we are all plagued with techniques from undesirable issues in existence. If others have a situation with it then its their situation. yet you want to protect your self. bypass to college, try be good and save in ideas your grandad is searching down on you and needs you to experience free.

Answer 6

It is not nice i know I get reminded of my dad like you too. At one stage it was really wearing me down but I realised that they would not want us to be upset like this, we will always miss them no matter what try to think of how your grandad would handle things he would probably say "chin up and don't worry" Try to remember all the funny things that happened when you were together instead of being sad he would not want that I bet. Love to you. tori

Answer 7

Lasy year I lost my mother and I am still grieving. It has helped me to see a grief counsellor so my advice to you is to see a grief counsellor. It takes time to be healed of grief . You can look back on the times you had with your grandad as good times.

Answer 8

honey i know, my mother passed in 2004 and i still struggle with this. there is nothing anyone can say to ease the pain. just know there are people around you that love you and will help you to work through this. the pain will eventually turn to love with memories. i will keep you in my prayers.

Answer 9

try visiting his gravve or talking 2 him. itll make u feel liike ur not alone.

Answer 10

HE STILL LOVES YOU , IN THAT BIG KINGDOM IN THE SKY , BEHIND THE CLOUDS