Should i stop looking for a girl or not?

Question

I wanted a girl for a long time, and now I am getting so frustrated that i might give up looking. No girl approached me, and I don't feel like asking a girl out, so I guess I am giving up. I don't feel like looking like a fool and starting a conversation eith or asking a girl out. I don't really feel like ever asking a girl out unless she approaches me first. Am I doing the right thing? I am good looking, but It's their loss, not mine if they don't approach me. I can't ever get confident, so i might as well just give up on love.

I mean, i want love, but i don't want it.

Answer 1

The minute you stop looking is when you'll find one.

I wouldn't expect a bunch of girls to approach you though. Not many of us are that assertive/aggressive type.

I suggest you get over not being confident. Look yourself in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are da man!!

Answer 2

No, it's not their loss...why should they approach someone who (from your own post) doesn't care? Apathy and negativity aren't appealing...some women will approach men, but typically they prefer the guys to make the move (as guys have done for eons).

From the tone of your post, my guess is that you aren't very approachable, so even if a woman found you good looking, without some warm/fuzzy signal that you were interested, she's not likely to take the chance...if your expression is glum, disinterested, angry, or anything other than a warm smile...you're likely to be passed by.

If it means so little to you, that you won't make the effort, then it's nobody's loss...you're not losing out because you don't care...and the women aren't losing out because there are plenty of other guys out there that know how to draw them in...

You CAN gain confidence if you want to...however the "I can't" attitude won't get you far...it's your choice...it's up to you to make yourself happy and to do what it takes to get what you desire out of life...if it's not worth the effort to you, then you apparently don't want it that badly...

Answer 3

Okay..you need to get out of the state of mind that you are in. You cannot put all of the responsibility on the women to come to you, because they are probably shy as well. If you are as great as you say you are, then you need to buck up, get out there, and talk to someone (you don't have to make a fool of yourself). Giving up is ridiculous, I'm sure you're young. Get out there and actually put forth some effort!

Answer 4

i have exactly the same problem(infact i askd a similar question a few days back,u can probably still look at the answers). Its worse when u see everyone else around u in a relationship which makes u feel lonely.don't give up tho,theres always hope in one form or another. Im going to try myspace when i get some decent pics of myself up (i cant find my camera atm and its pissing me off). if u ever wanna talk email me at [e-mail].

Answer 5

One get a prostitute or an eazy chick do her and fix your gamne a lil, i kno u have game because everyman knows what girls need thats all u need to have game. that will prob get your self esteeem up, after a couple of rounds in bed you will get better and know what you can offer sexually which is a normal part of dating, you know youre a passionate guy so intellectually and emotionally you have a lot to offer to a girl your an ideal man. Last dont live in regret my friend its better to try and fail than never to try at all.

Answer 6

post a quetion on Yahoo Answers, that what I did. Try asking something like, "Are there any girls who want a date," and say stuff about yourself in the details. It worked for me.

Answer 7

love, if it's meant to happen it will happen. destiny. and please approach women, it's not that hard.
what if dream girl is into you, and she doesn't have the confidence to approach you? Don't let her slip away, say hi one day!

Answer 8

you are looking too hard...slow down and quit worrying and love will find you..don't give up just be patient...good luck