its been like a yr and i had sex with others, but i always miss my first i fell completely inlove with him and i feel like i cant replace him with noone even if i try..y? we broke up because we couldnt be together,but i always think about him, i also lost it to him, and i feel like hes the only person i can be with.
2006-12-11 09:05:40 · 22 answers · asked by dusty l 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is becasue you feel that is your man
that is y it better to wait on marriage to have sex
but if you dont wait on marrigae you need to learn to
LET GO!!! and forget
2006-12-11 09:09:25 · answer #1 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure alot of people feel the way you do. I guess it depends on the sex you had. :) My first time wasn't all that great. We did it twice but each time he lasted like 30 seconds lol. We were 18. I was in love with him, but after he joined the army I knew I had to move on. For our sakes. And thats what I did, moved on...
Also a few years back I slept with this guy not knowing he was a virgin. Total static cling!!! He wouldn't leave me alone! I didnt' know it was going to be such a big deal with him (i sound mean right) or else i would've never done it. Anyway, had to tell him that I cheated on him to get him to stay away.
2006-12-11 17:09:04 · answer #2 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully you loved him before you had sex with him. There is no one like your first love. When 2 people have sex their souls exchange a piece of themselves. (mystical, I know) You can't keep having sex with people in hopes that it will replace the piece you gave to your first love. It doesn't work that way. (personal experience) This is why people preach to keep yourself pure until marriage.
I had to learn this the hard way. I EARNED my stripes of understanding through great personal pain and emotional upheaval. I don't regret my actions, because I learned from them and it makes me who I am today. However, if you can learn from my pain and take my word for it then maybe your personal happiness will come faster.
The best choice now is celibacy. (I know! Gaw! Everyone says that. Wait 'till your married. Blah.blah.blah) I am serious about it however. It gives you time to focus on you, what you want, what you need, and what you want your future spouse to see about you.
Have you ever heard the phrase, "Good things come to those who wait" ? It is true. It was during my time of celibacy that I met my husband. Frankly the only reason he agreed to date me was because his sister vouched for my sincerity concerning my change in behavior and thoughts. (ie.- I wasn't the same person I had once been.)
Good luck and best wishes.
2006-12-11 17:22:44 · answer #3 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that everyone falls in love with their first, but they get attached because they gave them something special that they can't get back. If its been a year, then you may still have feelings for him that deal with your relationship, not him being your first. You said you broke up because you couldn't be together, so you may still care a lot about him and you're not completely over how everything ended.
2006-12-11 17:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its like a drug. You will never be able to capture that first time. Its a once in a lifetime feeling! Its very special so that person you engaged in it with, becomes special also. Most people do fall in love with that 1st person, but to me, its not real. There is such a super fine line between love and lust and it sucks, but thats how we are.
Hopefully you will find someone that rattles your soul in a spiritual way instead of physical and it lasts. =)
2006-12-11 17:25:53 · answer #5 · answered by ConstElation 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most common mistake made in relationships is confusing love with infactuation( or lust).
Love is not a thing,its a process.
If you can't get what I'm saying here,you're probably a bit young to be expressing the ultimate form of true love,(sex).
What you describe is very common,but unlikely love.
Not being able to be together does not matter to true love.
2006-12-11 17:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by Mark K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
... I didnt. The first person I fell in love with, I never even had sex with. We were best friends from 12 to 18.... and looking back at the guy who I DID have sex with first... uhh... no. I never loved him. I THOUGHT I did. We went out for 2 years, but it was not love, just teenage "lust".
2006-12-11 17:11:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's an attachment because sex is an intimate thing. you have to move on though...try not to use sex with other people to get over it though.
Time is the best healer.
If bt some big miracle he will feel the same way later on, we'll never know but you gotta let go since you couldn't be together!
2006-12-11 17:15:49 · answer #8 · answered by Cooxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal, everyone misses their first. You will never replace him. You can only love another. All loves are different, that's why you can still care for someone while you're with someone else.
Just cherish the memories (as I do) and try to find that special guy (not as I do...LOL) to make your life happy.
2006-12-11 17:09:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a hard time getting over one girl I never had sex with and another who I did but wasn't my first, I've long forgotten my first though, lol. I guess that's something that only happens to girls...
2006-12-11 17:14:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because its the first person you were with...
But youre not doing yourself any favors are you???
You will not know until you try...
We all have firsts... but time moves on... and theres something special waiting on you out there.
But you gotta want it first.
Think about it...
2006-12-11 17:09:58 · answer #11 · answered by yankeeroses3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋