my bestfriend who is a girl has a crush on me?

Question

please help me. i have this bestfriend and just recently i got this new boyfriend, and she admited how she felt awful inside, because she wishes she was him. she claims she isnt a lesbian but she only has feelings for me. wich makes her bi, and she keeps complaing about it, and nothing i say seems to make her feel better. so i offered breaking up with him and she said i dont have to do that. cuz i would do anything for her, even if it meant loosing a boyfriend, bestfriends always come first. but what would the point of like breaking up with him, because i still wouldnt be with her. i feeel soo bad. and i always tell her how bestfriends are way more important and stuff but she stil feels bad, what can i say to her? PLEASE I NEED YOUR HELP
love,
the worst bestfriend :(

Answer 1

Ignore the haters on here, girl... they are miserable people who judge themselves harshly, so must judge others too.

First of all, you do not break up with him for her. You talk to her. You keep loving her-- as a friend. It will work out. Its not a matter of one is better than another... you just love them differently. Explain you are close to her in a way you can never be with him, but that you have to be true to yourself. If she loves you, she will come to understand it.

Good luck, and take care, to you-- a good best friend!!!!

Answer 2

Well no offense by doing anything for your best friend, like dumping you r boyfriend. Doing this you will be giving your best friend mixed signals (if you aren't bi, curious, or a lesbian). If she only has feelings for you what do you mean, I only have feeling for my brother , mother, bestfriend etc.....You mean she doesn't have sexual feelings about you OR is this what she is telling you?? Obviously this girl really likes you or she has some real low self-esteem in herself and feels she can't get anyone, simply she's jeoulous of you, or jeoulous at the fact that she can't have you. You decide on what the case maybe, but it seems to be that she likes you more than just friend feelings. Good Luck and tell her straight and if your confused go with the flow but if you know this girl for a long time it might ruin your friendship if you an't feeling the whole Bi/Lesbian action......something you will be taking a chance at. If she still has feelings for you and can't seem to get over them and you are strictly D*cKly than let that be known. If she can't handle it, I'm sorry to say but you have no ohter choice but to lose her as a friend. Good Luck and think wisely on whatever you decide...... =)

Answer 3

Oh wow.
First I want to tell you that she might think that she likes you but it's probably just friend love? I think that when she meets a good guy she'll see that loving a friend and loving a guy are two different feelings. I think that it once she gets together with a guy she'll see. Some girls like to experiment with there sexuality but sees at sometime no matter how far they go life is better with a guy. Hope this helps I would have liked to wirten more sorry but i have to go.

Answer 4

First of all best friend do not come first. One day you will be married or in a comment relationship and your going to tell me you would pick your best friend over a spouse? And you would break up with someone over her, because she your friend? That sounds crazy.. You have given "friend" to much power in your life. You need to take that back. And speak and do from "your" own head and heart. There's not one friend or best friend I known for 10 20 yrs of my life can tell me or make me feel I should not be with a person I love or like. There's no way in hall would someone have that much power over me. And now she has a crush on you , why not she can do or say anything she knows she can over power you, "you" gave her that. You need to take yourself back. That just sounds crazy to me. You don't sound like the worst best friend to me you sound like the giver and the poor boy who lost his way home. Please get it together. You do sound like a sweet person, I just hate to hear that a person who would give that much power over to a friend. You think friends are forever, no honey there not. You can have you one best friend in the world, but you don't let that person take your life. Nothing last forever. Only God.

Answer 5

My advicee to you is how can she possibly claim to be your best friend is she is putting her needs before yours, wouldn't she realize that she is abusing of your friendship by provoking a possibilty of true love in her friend to be hsattered? If she was your friend she wouldnt insinuate any sort of behavior that contradicts you or your personaltiy, if she is bi why should you be bi? Also freindship is abeatiful thing but its only a part of love, love means more than bros over hoes and chicks over *****, it means giving your self up completely to someone else and the mark of that love is your child, you can't accomplish this by having your possibly confused friend ruin your life, if you where her tru freind you would explain this to her and how unhealthy her situation and feelings for you can be... you need to help her by teaching her not by spoinling her

Answer 6

You and her need to talk bescause bestfriends share alot.. i am Bi- and My bestfriend is beautiful but I would never come on to her that is a promise I would not want to lose her friendship. so maybe your friend has always just wanted you as a lover and could not explain herself to you so there for the two of you grew to love each other in another way

Answer 7

Don't break up with him. That would be giving her false hope. She is not against you dating him, as in he is a bad guy or doesn't like him. She is against you dating other people becuase she likes you. Yes best friends are important, and as such you need to be blunt with her and tell her that you love her as your friend; but while she may be bi and want you, you are not and that no matter what you will always be her best friend but that is it.

Answer 8

you know, when/if I get married, I want my spouse to be my best friend. I mean, who better to get along with, talk with, amke love with thatn yuor best friend. You're already comfortable with them, now all you have to do is take it to the next level rather than start all over again with some random girl.

If you're the same sex and your friend is gay... you should've seen that coming. If you're into that sort of thin, so be it, but perhaps you should choose friends more wisely next time.

Answer 9

u are not doing anything wrong but if u are bi too then take a chance with her and if u are not then tell her that u would still be together no matter what and kiss her on the cheek

Answer 10

Keep her as a friend but talk to her and let her know you are into dating guys, but she has feeling for you so you should really try to help find some one for her to be with and that way she will be with her partner and you with yours but can still be friends..