i really like my best friend's boyfriend, and i've always liked him, and he knows i've always like him. she just asked him out first though. now i have no idea what to do and i don't know how to tell her (i have to tell her cause we're best friends and we tell eachother everything.). and we sit with him at lunch and she wants to break up with him. what should i do?
2006-12-11 08:50:46 · 8 answers · asked by Ella M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i say dont go there. She is your best friend and she asked him first. even though you like him now you may not like him once you go out with him and when things dont work out your the one that looses. you loose the guy and your best friend cause you stabbed her in the back. there is a line when your friends with someone see i dont care if i dated someoen 4 years ago i dated them there my friends they dont go there. My friends wouldnt do that to me. you just dont cross that line EVER.
2006-12-11 08:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by tcameron_2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got yourself in quite a bind my dear. The only thing to do is have an honest talk with her regarding her intentions towards the guy. If she truly intends on breaking up with him tell her if she would mind that you will ask him out after a few weeks have passed.
It's important to know that she is your best friend and your relationship with her might last for years and years while guys come and go. It might be that he is playing you both and just likes the attention. Do not sacrifice true friendship unless u r sure this will not hurt her. Usually girlfriend's exes are out of bounds but if u use tact and honesty it might work out for all of you.
Good Luck
2006-12-11 08:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I'm concerned, you have to keep your mitts off him until she breaks up with him. Otherwise you risk your friendship. Once she breaks up with him, you should talk to her. Don't let it come as a surprise or as gossip. Also, you should probably wait a bit before you make any move on him. How long kind of depends on your friend and even then you might end up losing that friend. Be considerate and honorable - treat your friend the way you would want to be treated in the same situation. That way you can be proud of your actions whether or not you remain friends.
2006-12-11 09:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by chicagowoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do anything until she breaks up with him. She did ask him out first so she has dibbs. After she breaks up with him let her know that you like him and ASK her how she would feel if you went out with him. If shes angry about it and tells u she would be upset with you if you did anything with him then DONT DO ANYTHING. A guy isnt worth a friendship btwn best friends.
2006-12-11 08:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i comprehend that it may harm your pal's emotions probably yet i'd tell the reality if I were you. The secrets and techniques needs to be let out sometime good? you need to ask your different pal who's Growong suspicious of you, you need to ask her why she would favor to attraction to close and how she will tell that you do in reality like him.
2016-11-25 21:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you liked him first, did she know it? if she did, then shes a biatch for asking him out in the first place. if she didnt know, you could try talking to her. if shes really your best friend, she'd listen and wouldnt just think you're jealous or something
2006-12-11 08:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by karen d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is your bestfriend then you need to let it go. friendship is more important then some stupid guy, but if her friendship is not that important to you then go for it.
2006-12-11 08:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a number sweety, be next in line. what else can you do.
2006-12-11 08:54:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋