...He was talking about how couples were formed.
And he said: Men don't choose women. Women choose men. Smart women will let men think they've chosen them.
Is this true? to what extent? Any thoughts on this?
2006-12-11 08:37:35 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
AllanSC: So I made a typo and missed the d at the end of 'Heard' - Gee! Sue me.
2006-12-11 08:42:17 · update #1
I think its true in a traditional generalized sense.
Its nature for the guys to chase and initiate while the women say "yay" or "nay". Even later on, women always have more options, if you look pretty, there is a guy who'll take you- men usually have to either have personality or be physically attractive AND have financial stability. And I think that any smart partner would make their partner feel important and appreciated for all they do. I know, and the beau knows, that I can easily find several guys who would want to date me, and not all of them creeps. But I honestly go out and the only person I want to take home is my beau and I appreciate everything he is and eveyrthing he does, and I know that I am lucky to have him. So on some level, we choose eachother but I want to emphasize my appreciation to him, so he feels like he choose me. Its just part of being a good partner, so yes, a smart woman/ or man would do that. And I find, in the end its all opinion anyway. I tell my man he is better looking, smarter, and just better in every way than I am, and he feels the same in return. And a few of my friends think I could do better, I'm sure some of his friends feel the same... so it doesn't really matter who choose who, the feeling comes from how you make the other person feel...
2006-12-11 09:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I do agree with that. Here's a scenario: a woman spots a man, began to check him out before making herself known, approaches him as a friend, hang around him quite a bit to get him used to her, even though there may be other competitors, she offers/provides what they're not giving (depending on the woman's limits) or something different. I'm thinking, if she stays visible for a while, friendly, makes him smile and relax, provides that unique something in a different way, she got him.
That's just how I read into that.
2006-12-11 16:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mike's Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that comes from the fact that a man will not get any sex from a woman unless she agrees. In any instance I have found that I have been attracted to a man that does not feel the same for me and vice versa. I believe you have to choose each other. A smart man or woman is not going to be in a relationship if they are not happy or willing to be there.
2006-12-11 16:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the culture, where I am from men chose women, because women are told that if they make the fist move men will think that they are cheap.
2006-12-11 16:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by ??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its true, I think most women have the control when it comes to things like that. We just let men think they do. And if the man ever finds out that we just "let" them think they chose us, they pretty much agree it was a "good choice on their part" anyway. :)
2006-12-11 16:41:05 · answer #5 · answered by NestleGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They choose eachother. I can't think of one healthy marriage where only one partner was willing or interested in the other.
2006-12-11 16:39:26 · answer #6 · answered by amber ɹəqɯɐ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually choose women who can spell myself.
2006-12-11 16:40:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its the way u look at it ....
2006-12-11 16:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by Maverick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋