He is 5 years old, why does he is find difficult to listen?

Question

He has alwasy been a very active child but he just finding difficult to respect and obey. He does not do as he is told and just wants his own way. He has been answered to the teacher and made the teacher giving him several time outs. He is getting worse every day. He wants sweety all times and just think about foos often but not aways. 1 minute you telling something and he says ok and the minute after he does what he wants. He is very irrespectful.

Answer 1

If this is a sudden behavior, I would wonder why it has come about. Has there been a change that he is acting out because of? Kids are crewatures of habit and crave security- whether that be in routine, life, and even disipline. They need consistant dsipline in order to learn what limits are. If you are very concerned because something does not seem right- I would consult your physician. Otherwise, take a look at when and why he is having his issues, and institute an expected routine/ response to that behavior. He will figure it out. good luck.

Answer 2

He's 5 years old. I'm assuming he has only just started school. Perhaps he is rebelling against the new regime.
But give him a bit of room. If he is still like this in a year or two, then maybe think about punitive action.

Answer 3

Active 5 year olds need to be active...keep it simple...he is a small child. Lead by example...he will treat others as he sees the adults around him act. Cut down the sugar as well.

Answer 4

He wants attention and he's getting it, but not in the way you would want to give it.

At 5 years old, he's old enough to learn to respect his elders and when he has crossed the line. If you punish him accordingly and remain firm, he will learn not to do what he is doing.

Answer 5

Just remember. He is FIVE! He is a little boy! HE will probably grow out of it. Just keep everything constant and don't change his routine! Let the kid be a kid! Have fun being the mommy!!!!

Answer 6

He's 5. He doesn't have a really long attention span. He's normal!

Punish his behaviour and not him. Give him choices and make him live with the consequences.

Answer 7

yeah, he finds it difficult to listen because he's 5.

Answer 8

1. Communicate your expectations clearly.

Pitfall: Some parents express what they want their child do by including a child's feelings as a part of the communication. For example: "Let's get in the car. I know you want to go to grandma's, don't you?"

Say, instead: "I want you to get in your car seat now. We are going to grandma's house."

2. Accept your child's feelings, but reinforce your expectations.

Pitfall: Expecting your child to show enthusiasm or contentment about doing what is required.

Instead, be willing to reflect your child's negative feelings about doing what you require, but do not negate what you expect. For example: "Grandma is waiting for us. You must get in your car seat. I know you are sad about having to leave your friends right now. You will be able to play again another day."

3. Communicate and deliver consequences.

Pitfalls: Many parents resort to yelling, instead of communicating and delivering consequences in a matter-of-fact tone. Or they do not follow through on consequences they communicate because they threaten inappropriately in the heat of anger.

Instead, accept complaints, but clarify what will happen if they do not listen. For example: "If you do not get in your car seat by the count of three, I will put you in myself." Or, for an older child, "If you do not do your homework, you will not be able to watch your TV program." Be sure you make appropriate consequences that you are willing to deliver. Then, follow through! (Note: Yelling is not a viable consequence, and only leads to escalation!)

Expect to follow through on your consequences BEFORE your children will listen. It will take one, two or three times for your child to know that you mean what you say, especially if you have been resorting to whining or complaining instead of being authoritative (which we all do at one time or another).

4. Separate your child's behavior from their self-esteem. Label a behavior "bad," but not your child's motives or character.

Pitfall: To confuse behavior with character labels. For example: "No hitting! Only bad boys hit."

Instead, "Hitting is a bad thing to do to others. You must learn to use your words." Or to an older child when addressing a bad mistake. "You are not a thief. Why in the world did you steal that lipstick?" Separating behavior from action allows children to learn from their mistakes, rather than be condemned by them.

It is our job as parents to guide our children. We must be willing to accept anger and other negative feelings when we set appropriate limits. As long as your expectations are reasonable for your child's age, you may successfully adopt the role of benevolent dictator when necessary.

As parents you have your children's best interests at heart. You have raised them to give you their input. Pat yourself on the back. They will feel empowered to express themselves and be able to influence the direction of their destiny in their adult lives.

But do not stop short of taking charge. Your calm leadership is necessary to create a stable environment. Children and parents flourish in an atmosphere that promotes order over chaos.

(someone's going to tell you to spank, so I'm including a link on the ineffectiveness of spanking)

Answer 9

um well he might have add but im not exactly sure yet...