even though my parents are seperatde my dad is always calling my mom asking her
where she is what she's doing who she's w/ and who's at home w/ her and i don't think my mom likes it either but she won't stand up for herself she feeds his need to control which she pretty much has done all her life well when she was living w/ him i understand cuz he cud get violently angry (he has a huge scary *** temper even ppl older than him get **** scared and no kids like little him) and he also does this w/ me and i wanna be free of him 4ever i feel like cryin sumtimes and feel suffocated and trapt a lot cuz of it he hardly would let me do anything (i don't know even if my mom will let me have normal amount of freedom lyk normal parents cuz she might get afraid of him) if u have a control freak parent then u know how i feel and soon my cuz is cumin so i'm gonna be hanging out w/ her but he might stop tht (specially sine she's the only 1 who sees him 4 wut he relly is so how do i break free and break contact w/o getting **** 4rom fam i'm not aggresive hes ruined me persoanl
2006-12-11 08:05:37 · 6 answers · asked by mamama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You continually repeat the same question, this is like the 7th time you've asked it.
2006-12-11 08:08:59 · answer #1 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is a victim and its very hard to break that chain. to stop this becoming generational u wil nd 2 find it in you 2 b the strong 1. sounds easy but you wil need resolve. when u say no,mean no. as 4 upsetting ur dad or family thats where his strength comes from-knowing no-one will stand up to him. you may find that once 1 person does no matter how insignificantly it seems others will notice and sooner the chain becomes stronger. your cuz already sees the real him-use them for support and take comfort in knowing that you arent alone
2006-12-11 08:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by anniemg73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're saying your dad and mom are separated and not divorced. think of of this . . . while a individual has an operation and an undesirable area of the physique is bumped off, the operation has occured, however the therapeutic nevertheless desires happen. Your dad and mom are separated, yet are nevertheless moving in the process the discoveries, judgements and thoughts approximately being aside. wait and spot, at plenty as you could, and understand that there is a ask your self of anwers, judgements, and therapeutic time that desires to take place. when I first divorced after a protracted term marriage, it took me a solid one to 2 years to heal from the sentiments of my ex-husband and discover my own self lower back. wait and spot of your mom's transitions. with regard on your dad, from time to time while a female leaves a guy the guy will think of "i'm the only one for her, she won't have a existence or the different healthy relationships in her existence different than me" and the ex-boyfriend or husband will nevertheless be in that dating mode of questioning that they have got administration over their ex female chum or spouse. All that's occurring right here is discovery and transforming into forward. yet, you're a their baby in this ecosystem. My suggestion . . . communique, set your emotional boundries, it somewhat is between them and that they could desire to no longer be asking you questions or bringing you interior the direction of this. in case you're asked questions of what parent is doing what merely answer "it somewhat is between the two one in each and every of you, I preserve the two one in each and every of you, i'm merely a baby, you're able to be asking (mom or dad) or yet another of your grownup pals." Say this on your guy or woman words respectfully and frivolously. you're able to could desire to maintain telling them this, yet they gets the message and quickly flow away you out of it. Hugs to you.
2016-12-30 06:52:02 · answer #3 · answered by devoss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother to wake up to herself and stop feeding his control if she made the move to get him out of her life then she now needs to tell him that wat she does in her life is no longer any of his business
2006-12-11 10:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should concentrate on your schooling because you obviously cannot spell!
2006-12-11 08:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by jillybean 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
change phone number and don't give it too him.
2006-12-11 08:11:24 · answer #6 · answered by This, That & such 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋