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When invited to a party, and guests are allowed, how many guests is it reasonable to bring along? I'm actually throwing a party and one of the people I invited says she might be bringing up to four guests. Is this acceptable behavior? It seems a little tacky to me but I might be over reacting.

2006-12-11 08:01:34 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Etiquette

Thanks for the assistant. I should have specified that it's a close friend and she's kind of spastic and she'll probably blow a gasket if we tell her she's way out of line bringing along four people. But yeah, I had hoped she'd have enough sense to limit it to one guest.

2006-12-11 08:08:08 · update #1

16 answers

Usually if it's the kind of party that requires a written invitaion, it is only appropriate to bring one guest, usually a date or a family member. However, if it's a house party-type situation, I don't really think there's a good way to llimit the amount of people a guest can bring with them. Unfortunately, that is where their sense of decency has to kick in and they have to think to themselves, "Oh, maybe that's not fair because that's a lot of people to provide for at a party!" But sadly, a lot of people never really think about it that way. You have every right to call up this girl and say, "I'm sorry but I was trying to keep the party sort of small. Do you think you could maybe only bring one friend along?" She will likely get mad at you about this, but f it is a real concern for you, you have the right to bring it up. In the future, next time you have a party, be sure to make it clear in the invitation that you are inviting your guest PLUS ONE.

2006-12-11 08:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1 1

I think the host(ess) should indicate in some way how many "uninvited" people can come with an invited guest. Maybe, when inviting someone, and you want to meet new people, say something like "By the way, if you want to bring a couple friends, feel free. Please just call me first and tell me who will be coming" That way, the host has the option of declining if the guest wants to bring a bunch of people he's too lazy or cheap to entertain himself. Also it prevents having people come who maybe don't get along with others you've already invited.
To leave it wide open is inviting trouble, it seems to me. I always ask guests to call me first before bringing along others....not that I never allow guests--- just that I want to know how many and who they are.
It is your party after all-- your home, or your money to rent a place you will be responsible for.

2006-12-11 08:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rani 4 · 0 0

People should bring ZERO guests unless you specifically mention that they may bring a guest. Even then, one is the customary limit. The exception would be if you're throwing a "PARTAAAAAY!" - as opposed to a "party" - where you just want it to be insane and you don't care how much stuff gets broken/stolen as long as everybody parties their asses off, in which case you tell them bring everyone they can get their hands on and don't forget to bring the good ****, man.

2006-12-11 08:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by Austin W 2 · 0 0

No...not acceptable. I would bring no more than one other person with me. The invite is usually for the person invited and guest. Not GUESTS. It is very tacky to being an entourage. No one is that important! I would ask her to keep her escorts to one or two. It's not tacky, and I really would say something. It's not your job to feed and entertain all her friends.

2006-12-11 08:05:06 · answer #4 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0 0

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2016-12-30 06:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by devoss 3 · 0 0

I'll say! I believe ONE guest is appropiate, if your allowed to bring one. Thats extremely tacky to invite more than one person to tag along. You should specify that one guest per person is the maximum limit. She should respond accordingly!

2006-12-11 08:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by peacfulwar 3 · 0 0

0. Guests are not allowed to bring others, unless it specifically says so on the invitation.

Tell your friend that others want to bring extra people too, (even if it's not true) and that you simply can't have that many people over. Tell her you'd like to spend more quality time and have fun with your closest friends - flattery may keep her happy.

2006-12-11 08:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

usually an invitation will say:
Ms. Soandso and guest
OR
Ms. soandso and family
......so usually only the person recieving is invited, or they are invited and allowed to bring ONE guest, or the whole family is invited.......your friend is definately being rude by inviting four additional guests, she is definately being tacky!!....if she wants to have her own party she can invite as many and whoever she wants.....but this is YOUR party, she doesn't get to make up the guest list!!

2006-12-11 08:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 1 0

Usuually it is proper for someone to bring a spouse or a date, but not a whole slew of people. State on your invitations (If you are sending them out) that 1 guest is permitted.

2006-12-11 08:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0 0

I don't think there are any fixed rules. The polite thing, I believe, is to ask the host before bringing ANY guests. Then, as the host, it's your call how many is too many. And be strong: if you think it's too damn many people, you're within your rights to say so!

2006-12-11 08:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by rustyreacharound 2 · 1 0

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