I have been with my man for 1 1/2 years now..I want to know is there a point in the relationship where he shouldnt call his female friends or they shouldnt call him..I really love my guy and I would be hurt if we didnt work out..I do trust him..but one can not predict the future...he is 30 and I am 29
2006-12-11 07:57:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks for the honest honest answers
2006-12-11 08:37:41 · update #1
There is no reason that your man should cut out his female friends. People can have friends of the opposite sex. Especially females he may of been friends with for a long time. It is healthy to have friends of the opposite sex, it makes you a well rounded person. Just because he has female friends it does not mean he is friends with them in a romantic way.
2006-12-11 08:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Janine E 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never expect your man to give up his friends, male or female, unless they are a negative influence on him (into illegal drugs, heavy drinking, etc). It is not natural to have only female friends or only male friends. I'm sure you have male friends, and I doubt that your man would want you to give up those friends. Sometimes you need an outside perspective from a member of the opposite sex on your relationship, or on anything else that comes up in life. Not too mention having all male friends or all female friends just isn't healthy, the world is made up of both men and women, and you should be friends with both. If the female friends are a threat to the relationship, in that they are constantly hitting on him, or he's going to their houses alone and staying the night, or anything like that, that's another story, otherwise, it's perfectly natural, and you shouldn't ask him or expect him to give up his friends.
2006-12-11 16:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, any more than either of should have to cut out friends of any gender.
You are his girlfriend, and maybe even his potential wife, but that does not mean you become his everything so he doesn't need others. In fact, its not healthy if he doesn't have outside friends. If those friends are female, why do you feel threatened by them?
If he's given reasons for you not to trust them (i.e. he's cheated on you with them) then the problem is with him, not his friends. Someone who can't be trusted can't be trusted no matter what restrictions you put on him. And someone who can be trusted should be trusted no matter what freedoms you "allow."
That said, I know that if I didn't have my female best friend I would never know what to buy my wife for her birthday!
2006-12-11 16:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by jeffedl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you think he should stop being friends with people just because they are female? Maybe you should ask yourself why you don't trust him to have platonic relationships with women. If your relationship is strong, what threat are they to you? Or do you feel that they are trying to compete with you? You need to figure out what's really at the root of this.
2006-12-11 16:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by 12879 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him about his feelings for you? After 11/2 years, I would think he would be serious enough to not even think about calling any of his former girlfriends. And you stated that you trust him. If that's the case, why did you have to ask the question? If you trust him, then you trust that he's not still in contact with any former girlfriends.
2006-12-11 16:04:46 · answer #5 · answered by ladyravenwing2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are just friends then there should never be a time he shouldnt call them. I have mostly platonic male friends and would never appreciate being told to stop calling them by anyone I was in a relationship with.
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2006-12-11 16:01:50 · answer #6 · answered by rattyfraggs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have a problem with him having female friends as long as we were all mutual friend's. If they didn't know me and we couldn't hang out at any given time without there being a problem then they have to go. If he doesn't want you to meet them then they are more than just friend's.. He's a liar and a loser. He needs to go.... Sounds simple. I know it's not, but no one like to be mistreated. Good Luck!!!!!!!!1
2006-12-11 16:03:40 · answer #7 · answered by Izzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never... It is normal to have friends of the opposite sex and if you trust him then what is the problem? Do you have guy friends from high school or college or even work that you still talk to occasionally?
2006-12-11 16:00:52 · answer #8 · answered by bnelly05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we all have the right to friendships, and you making him cut out the friends he has is not necessary, you could make him aware of your feelings, but demanding someone to cut out their friends is horrible, seriously you must have a few guy friends that you keep in touch with as well.
2006-12-11 16:02:49 · answer #9 · answered by David S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never my husband of one year still has female friends,if there's love and trust in the relationship you should be alright with it..also i am 26 and he is 34,and we were together 8years before getting married.good luck and hope it work's out for both of ye..
2006-12-13 10:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by teresa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋