I got engaged a month ago and we decided to get marriaged next october 2007 but 10 minutes ago I talked with my fiancee.
She said me "My brother is going to army in august for this reson we must get engaged before soldier problem or on May 2008.
I have to decide which is better for me.Get marriaded before her brother go to army or on May 2008
I love her and I don't wanna to wait a long time.
But my budget can't afford it in August If I want to get marriaged before August.
Plese give me your opinion.
If you were me What would you do
Thanks
2006-12-11 07:54:55 · 26 answers · asked by PhotoARTist 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i would tell her that if she wants to get married in a smaller wedding lower budget cut out some of the stuff she wanted then you can do it before august but if not tell her you understand that her brother means a lot to her and you love her but you dont think its fair that you have to wait two years to get married and sart your lives together.
in my opinion she is being selfish she can always video tape it or do the internet thing so he can be present wherever he is sometimes. its not fair to make you wait two more years to start your lives and family together. if she loves you she shoud understand you
2006-12-11 08:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by mk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If all it is is a money problem and everyone supports you two getting married before her brother leaves, then have a small ceremony if that works for the both of you. If you want a bigger wedding, I would suggest waiting. Personally, I would just do a small ceremony. Your marriage is more about the rest of you life than just that one day. I would be happy to have friends and family there for an intimate ceremony than an all out expensive one that I too cannot afford right now. Good luck and Congrats!
2006-12-11 17:32:53 · answer #2 · answered by Kim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee and I are waiting until June 2008 to save up money and to make sure that my brother is back from Iraq. The wait is driving me crazy too!
If you can't wait, have a small wedding with just close family and friends - it helps if you have the ceremony and reception in the same place, like a restaurant or bed and breakfast - and then have a larger party afterwards in 2008.
Also, check out the book Bridal Bargains (http://www.windsorpeak.com/bridalbargains/default.html). It's a great money-saving resource.
2006-12-11 16:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your fiancee should not be telling you to do anything. She should come to you and discuss this not bark orders like you make it sound. Second of all if you wanna get technical with her, the brides family is supposed to pay for the wedding so if you two decide to do it sooner and you can't afford it, have her family pay for some. Third, if you love her and want to include her brother then I would say wait till 2008. Waiting only makes you want to get married more or make you realize you shouldn't do it at all.
2006-12-11 16:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of having a big wedding now why not just each sides of closes family? You can get a justice of peace for very little money don't even need a tux or wedding dress if you don't want it....rent a hall or have it at a one of your parents house. That way bro can come and all is good. Then when he comes back you can do the big wedding if you want too with church and all! Oh and instead of a cater have each person bring a dish and go to a grocery store and have a caked made..also knock on wood her bro comes home.......I would do it now and not wait...u just never know!
2006-12-11 16:03:48 · answer #5 · answered by dietpepsigirl77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a smaller wedding before August. In fact, I would not even wait THIS long. Smith the iron while it's hot is my motto (my husband and I married within 4 months of our engagement - now we can get on with our life as a married couple).
2006-12-11 18:16:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't get married to make other people happy. If she wants to get married before her brother ships off, that is between you two. You don't HAVE TO. She might WANT TO, but, it's not imperative.
No one said planning a wedding was easy. More than one engagement has been broken because the couple realized that they didn't see eye to eye on many things that came up in planning the wedding.
If you do get married while the brother is in the armed forces, don't be surprised if he feels miffed. Hey, that is going to be his problem to get over. Life doesn't wait for anyone and he needs to learn that. My dad did when his sister got married and was on a honeymoon when he got back from Korea on leave.
You and your intended spouse need to talk it out and figure out what you guys really want.
Good luck and congratulations.
2006-12-11 16:02:11 · answer #7 · answered by yodeladyhoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your budget can't handle an August wedding, then just wait. If it is that important to your fiance, then wait until May when her brother gets back, or is able to attend. You could also do a small ceremony with close fmaily and friend in August and wait until May to have a large reception.
2006-12-11 16:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear confuse,
If you really love her but you dont want to wait you have a problem! Here's a oppion, Get married in May 2008. First this helps witht the brother thing, second, you can save more money for your future wife.
BUT if you can wait you have to decide what would be right for both of you.
Hope that helps you out,
Hopeful
2006-12-11 16:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by need help with boyfriend problem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her lets just have a small wedding before your brother goes to the army because i can't afford a big wedding and i love u a lot and i want to marry u before August would a small wedding be ok for u...?
And if she love u like u love her she would be ok.
2006-12-11 15:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by MFC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋