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I don't need the speech, I know the "rules"
I just want some answers
2006-12-11 07:52:19 · 55 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Here's another no. I have a friend who's with a married man. Even now that he's split with his wife, he treats her like a ho. She has to sneak around so that the kids won't see her, he's had a vasectomy and she wants children...it's a complete horror show. And I've known more than one woman who went into it for just drinks, just sex, just casual...and had her heart broken. Most females are not cut out for the casual thing. Good luck.
2006-12-11 07:57:36 · answer #1 · answered by shannonscorpio 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
So I really liked your story about the girl at Dance better or when you were a man.... but if this were a REAL situation, here would be my answer.... So why exactly are your trying to seduce a married man? You should be ashamed of yourself. Tell him something came up and stay as far away from him as possible. Do you want to be know as the office tramp who ruins marriages? I am sure office parties would be great for you after that. Put yourself in his wife's shoes. Would you want your husband to be having drinks with another woman? Don't become a slut. STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED MEN. By the way... don't you have anything better to do?
2016-03-29 03:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless you want to open a can of worms.
Why would the guy want to meet you for drinks - ask yourself that question. My guess is so that he can persuade you to go further with him.
The question you need to ask yourself is this: are you ready to become someone's mistress? If that's your choice and you feel willing and able to handle the complications (you're SECOND wheel, the wife is first. You have to lie and hide. You're being used), then go for it.
I have no moral judgment about anything. There is no right or wrong (in my book), only consequences.
Make the best intelligent decision you can come up with for yourself.
2006-12-11 07:56:36 · answer #3 · answered by flywho 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Putting the "rules" aside...there is no use pursuing this because 1 of 3 things will happen:
1. You will not have feelings for him anyway.
2. You will have feelings for him and he will NEVER leave his wife.
OR
3. You will have feelings for him and he will leave his wife (after a LONG time) and you will never know if he cheats on you because he could just do the same to you that he did to his wife.
Stick to friendly conversation - tops.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-11 07:56:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anne C 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need the speech. You know the rules. You know the answer.
2006-12-11 07:59:30 · answer #5 · answered by atur.service 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No--absolutely not. He's married--it's that simple. If the responses you're getting is not enough to deter you...imagine the worst case scenarios. You know, play the 'what if...' game with yourself...such as, what if you were named in his divorce proceedings (could you live with that humiliation), what if his wife just happened to be dining at the same restaurant, what if your friends or parents saw you (think you'd introduce the guy...this is Joe Smoe who is married to Cloe....a lady that we're deceiving...LOL)....what if he's just trying to get in your pants (do you really think he isn't?!)....what if your husband did the same thing one day in the future (would it be okay with you if he did so)...and what if you really, really liked the married guy (where would the relationship lead....could you live with that). Get my point--you need to be prepared to live with the consequences of your own decisions. You're a big girl!! My question is....why would you want to do so....do you think you're the first single girl that has caught his eye (and he's forgotten who he is...or who his wife is). Good Luck & Think hard.
2006-12-11 07:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about it like this....
If YOU were married would you want some other broad meeting YOUR husband for drinks?!?!?!?!
That's your answer
Don't ruin someone else's marriage for your OWN pleasure. If a man is willing to do his WIFE like that good luck to you sister cause he's a real keeper *shakin head* Your the reason I don't trust alot of women plain and simple
2006-12-11 07:54:30 · answer #7 · answered by preciseonegirl28 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! I have been in a similar situation and it's not good. Just don't do it. If you think that this man is something that you may want to pursue, remember that he already has a wife. Not only that, but if he were to leave her for you, well lets just say if he does it with you, he will do it to you! Honey, find yourself a nice single man!
2006-12-11 07:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by sassy2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you dont need a speech and know the rules then why did you come here ?
2006-12-11 07:57:02 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. Imagine if you were in love with someone and you found out they were going to meet someone else for drinks behind your back. Do the right thing, even if he can't. Besides, if he would cheat on his wife, he would be just as happy to cheat on you.
2006-12-11 07:55:41 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋