How old were you when you first had sex and is 14 to young?

Question

I know most of you are going to say yes right off and I respect that so if your answer is no, can you tell me why you think that (besides STDs and getting pregnant)?

I am a freshman in high school and am madly in love with my boyfriend and whether things work out between us or not I really believe we are ready and that this moment in time is right for us. I just want opinions becasue I realize we are really young so it does worry me a little

We have been together almost 9 months

Answer 1

13 with a 16 year old (she had a car!)

Answer 2

14 is definitely too young, and I am speaking from experience. I am 35 now, but I was 13 when I first had sex. My friends and I at that age all thought it was cool, that we were cooler than our friends who were virgins. But we were having sex for the wrong reasons, whether to be cool, peer pressure, or because our boyfriends wanted us to.
It really sucked when some of us became pregnant. Some people found out and to this day, we still feel the stigma whenever we run into those people. Our boyfriends didn't hang around for us to cry on their shoulders. Also, if you get a reputation that you'll have sex, long after this boyfriend is gone, other guys may think you're a slut and won't go out with you.
You should have sex when YOU want to, whether it's the first time or the 1000th time. If you're going to have sex, make sure it is for the right reasons; mainly that you want to, that you feel safe with who you're with, and that you have protection. A sex advisor to young girls on Oprah said it best when she said, "young girls should not be sperm recepticles".

Answer 3

The only reason I would say no is because people have feelings that they don't understand at that time. Make sure that what you feel for this person is more than just physical. Do a pro and con list stating why you should and why you shouldn't. If the answers are because he wants it, everyone else is doing it, I don't want to lose him, then those are wrong.

If the answers are we both want to be each others first, I am ready for this step and I would not want anyone else to be my first.
I love him with all my heart (not throbbing body (smile).

Then you may have some justifiable reasons.

Just make sure that if you choose to take that step, that you can't have that moment back. He will always be your first. Heaven knows I wish I had waited because my husband is the first man that ever really treasured me ENTIRELY!

You'll figure out what entirely means later in life but for now, be true to you because that is who your first time should be for. You.

Best of luck.

Answer 4

I was 17. I do think 14 is too young just because i don't think that any 14 year old is emotionally mature enough yet. At 17, i wasn't even ready and regret it a little. Just think about it reallly well. How long have you been with this guy? Think about all the consequences before you make any huge decision. Plus, there's lots of time for sex, don't burden yourself with that now so young. It's not all fun..

Answer 5

Of course 14 is too young. Why are you in such a hurry to act like you're grown? And what are your reasons for even thinking about having sex at your age? Because some guy wants you too and he says that "he won't love you anymore" if you don't? And aren't STD's and potential pregnancy enough of a reason? Either of those would completely end any enjoyment of your teenage years. A 14 year old has no business having sex. Anyone who still lives at home, has no job, and is still being supported by their parents has no business having sex.

Answer 6

Sex is a very big responsibility baby girl and in my opinion yes, 14 is ENTIRELY too young. You have your whole life ahead of you to enjoy yourself. For now, enjoy being a kid. Take no offense when I say that, but you are a kid and kids have no business having sex. The risk, especially for someone as young as you are, are too huge to even comprehend. Besides take it from me, there are men out there that have no idea what they are doin in the bedroom at 30 IMAGINE how lame it would be at 14?!?! *lol*

Make good choices honey for today and tomorrow (Hmm I sounded a lil too much like an after school special just then)

Answer 7

14 is too young....as if STDs and getting pregnant weren't enough!! Do you really need other reasons? Okay, you are not emotionally mature enough at 14 to cope with a sexual relationship. Sex makes things much more complicated than you realize. (The pregnancy thing was enough to convince me to wait...I was in my 20's my first time....don't have sex until you are absolutely sure you can care for and support a baby because every time you have sex there is a chance you could become pregnant ...EVERY TIME....14 is too young!)

Answer 8

You don't know what love is, even if you think you do. It may not be that you have to wait until you're married, but you're still a child and should enjoy the life of a child. There is no reason to grow up quickly and be an adult, and sex is definitely an adult activity. You are the only person who will really decide, but I would also consider what your parents feel and even discuss it with them. Don't be scared. If you do do it, either make sure you're on the pill and he wears a hat on his jimmie, or that he doubles up on the jimmie thing. Good luck.

Answer 9

I was 17, he was my first everything. But anyway dats too young, try to have patience. And you will know for sure when the right time is. Wait until you're married,because if you give it up now, do you think he might leave you? Not saying he will. But in todays world they will have all the patience u want them to. So really think about it because perople can give you opinions but you make the decisions. And the choices you make in life will determine the life you live. Be very careful if you do.

Answer 10

NO/YES!i WAS at the age of 14 ,I STILL TO THIS DAY REGRET IT, there are so many thoughts going on at one time . but mainly ,between the ages of say...13 to maybe 16 for girls anyway, your just starting to mold who you are in your head. your able to mold and shape ,the way ,you want;& others to see you If your image isn't what you want ,them, to think ;or what you want them to know, who you are,. you can change it .but if you make one mistake you think the whole world will never forget , so it is very important ,to most defiantly with something that if not prepared or emotionally and maturely ready, it could effect you in the worst way for the rest of your life, like it did me. so as with anything you do and do with your well being, and how you want you to think about you.take your time. your whole life is ahead of you; take your time and don't be in such a hurry to become "grown up" it is coming fast enough . being a kid is fun being grown up isn't always fun. I hope you take the time you need be fore making any decisions.good luck

Answer 11

I was 16. 14 is a bit young, get to planned parenthood and talk to somebody. Be very careful back in the 70's and early 80's we did not have as much information out there as there is today.