I'm scared to go to sleep?

Question

Last night I was convinced there was someone in my house, I heard voices and footsteps. I'm 23 with a 14 month old daughter, my bf is away from sunday night till Tuesday night. I had to phone my dad at 4am just to come and check, I was terrified. Now I'm alone again and am scared to go to sleep. I'm always hearing creaking and noises, we live in a house with 3 floors. I'm well scared.

Answer 1

I went through the same thing! I'm a single mom, and even though I KNOW that the chances of someone coming to kill me in the night are so ridiculously small they're not even feasible, I still get scared. I think it's having this responsibility of a child on top of still being a kid yourself! ( I was 19 when my daughter was born)
Even though it sounds bad, if I got really scared I would grab my daughter up and bring her in to sleep with me. That way I knew she was safe, and I always figured it put the odds in my favour with fate and all that. Hehe.....I still do it once in a while, and my daughter's five now.
She loves it, and I sleep better knowing all is well in my little house with my little family.

Answer 2

Your senses are heightened when it is quiet, so it's possible that your ears are just over-sensitive to the normal creakings of the house as it settles at night. The brain likes to find patterns in noises and you may just be hearing a combination of random noises that your mind is fitting in to the nearest noise pattern it can come up with - footsteps and talking.

Is your house attached to any other houses? If so, maybe you're actually hearing the people next door.

The other theory, that some people will obviously not be convinced about is that you're just hearing the spirits of people who once lived there or the spirits of relatives coming to visit you.

Whatever the cause, maybe leave the hall light outside your bedroom on and a radio on quietly on a music station, perhaps something calming like Classic FM. The light will hopefully take away some of the natural fear we all have of "stuff lurking in the dark" even when there's nothing there. The music will hopefully mask any noises, but also hopefully be unobtrusive enough for you to get to sleep.

Answer 3

I suffer from this as well and I'm 56.

I try to deal with this fear by being logical. Put barriers up in the dark so you'll hear any noises. Chairs where someone will stumble against them. Leave the light on in your room. People won't enter a lighted room. Get a fan going. The slight noise from the fan will mask the creaking and noises and you'll still be able to hear your daughter.

Get a prescription for Ambien so you'll get a good night's sleep and thus reduce your anxiety for the following nights.

Answer 4

I guess the real question is why? You could always look at the past, but I do not think that is the answer. I know you might not be looking for a spiritual solution, but aside from common sense protection, which I am sure you do(I.E. make sure doors are locked), it is the only place to turn. You cannot ever be sure that nothing with happen. If you are scared to die, why? I believe the answer is that you have been made that way, so you would seek out what happens when you die. Christ died to take away this fear, and bring you with him to heaven, if you will repent of your sin, and embrace him by faith. Trust him and his word(the Bible) and move forward one day at a time. This exact circumstance is how I became a Christian when I was 11.... I am not smarter than you, I just knew where to go because of the parents he put in my life. The great thing, is that you can now teach your daughter why she does not have to be afraid of anything in her life. Also, if you think there is supernatural things going on that are not good, Christ would also be the answer, since he created whatever is giving you grief. CHrist did not create you to cower in fear, that is the work of an enemy.....

Answer 5

Buy a gun. Keep it locked up in your bedroom with the nearby. (don't want the baby playing Russian roulette). Also consider getting an alarm system installed. To me it seems you have a very rational fear of someone breaking into your house. If you can defend yourself or know that they can't get in without tripping the alarm you'll sleep just fine.

Answer 6

Relax, love, we all fell this way from time to time, but look at it this way, what are the odds that someone is trying to get into your house, very,very low indeed, get an alarm fitted and have a panic button in your bedroom, that will give more peace of mind, and get that bf of yours to change his job, if indeed thats why he's not with you every night. good night God bless.

Answer 7

Old houses make a noise when they warm up or cool down, don't worry about it, if you have a friend with a dog tape it as long as its not a poodle :O). play that when your scared and even shout , Rover if you see someone bite his Balls off, if there is someone there they will run a mile. Sleep tight

Answer 8

I have had to spend the night by myself with my kids when my hubby was out of town also, I hated it too. I also had the same toubles you are having. So, what I did was I brought my 2 year old and my 6 year old in my room with me, and we ate popcorn and watched movies until we fell asleep, I helped me to know that my kids were within arms reach so I knew they were safe!

Answer 9

That's not good. You know there is nothing/no one there. You need to buck up for the sake of your daughter. You cannot be afraid of every little noise. You are the only one who can do anything about this. If you can't convince yourself, then you need to get psychiatric help.

Answer 10

im 32 now,but also like you i had a baby at nineteen and my boyfriend worked nights.I also went through what youre discribing.It wasnt true it was my mind,because you know youre alone.the mind can be very evil sometimes.What helped me in the end was to leave the tv on.Dont forget we have had very windy weather and the joints in the house will move.I hope this will help you to relax.