How can I help my husband come to the Lord? He is having trouble believing. Read more..?

Question

He asks questions that I am uncertain of. Like if God really loves him then how come we have no money and cannot take care of ourselves. And why is there suffering. What can I say to him? And how can I help him?

Answer 1

Why not respect this man you apparently love, and respect the Bible you apparently love?

Your Bible describes in precise detail your obligations to teach and not teach. You are to go, teach Jesus's name, and if you are rejected, you are to shake the dust from your feet and not cast your pearls before swine.

Obviously, you've talked to him about Jesus. Obviously, he's rejected it.

Now leave him alone like Jesus commanded you in the Bible.

Answer 2

Ignore those cruel jibes, friend. You love your husband and care about his eternal future. I've been in the same rocky boat for over 30 years and would sometimes despair of my man ever believing in God in a saving way. He believes in God, at least (though so do the demons - and shudder). He also displays more good qualities (like meekness) than I do, so my fear is that I will be a stumbling block to him. However, God is good, and despite me, God will reach him in just the right way at just the right time.

Questions either show a genuine inability to understand, coupled with a desire to know the answers, or they are asked in order to provide an excuse not to know / act. Only God knows your husband's heart, and his motives for objecting. However, I'd like to suggest possible responses to the two questions you mentioned.

(1) If you really had no money and could not take care of yourselves, you would not be able to use this site, and you would be starving to death. He is exaggerating. But he possibly desires more money and a better position in life. If his motives are good, then he will not take exception to you quoting from Proverbs chap. 30 verse 8: "Give me neither poverty nor riches, but give me only my daily bread." (And, if he's up for it, go on to read verse 9.) Then you could gently point out that Jesus advocates rich people selling all they have, giving the proceeds to the poor, and following him (Matthew ch 19 vs 21). So it's much better to be neither poor nor rich.

(2) The suffering question cannot be answered fully by anybody. However, there is a booklet called "If I Were God, I'd End All the Pain" by John Dickson (details below). Please get a copy; it's very cheap. That should help. You can order a copy from your local library too. Also, a good point to make is this: "If God made life easier for Christians, not letting them suffer too much, then everybody would rush to join - for all the wrong reasons. And Christ suffered more than any of us will ever suffer in paying the price for our sin. Sin in the cause of all evil and suffering, and only God could deal with it. He chose to deal with it because he loves us. He wasn't obliged to. So until we face up to sin, we'll never grasp why God apparently allows suffering now.

Finally, keep on praying for your husband, and I will pray too, as and when he comes to remembrance. May God bless you both.

Answer 3

He needs to understand that there are things of more value than money. God has provided for him and will continue to do so. Seek first the kingdom of God and then these things will be added to you. God created man with free will and a sinful nature but God had a plan of salvation for his creation from the begining.God loved us while we were yet sinners so much that he paid the penalty of death for us. We even as Christians still live in a sinful world and this is not the land that we seek but that kingdom which is to come where there is no suffering. The only way to god is to see our need for him and to seek him then we have his promise that we will find him. God is not hidden but in our search we become changed and we are able to know him.

Answer 4

First of all, You husband is not coming to the Lord out of understanding of what Jesus did for him- rather he is wanting God to work a miracle in order for him to believe, which the bible says not to put the Lord to the test. Now it is God who draws us- so you cannot do anything to make him believe- BUT have you shared the gospel with him? The whole gospel? Does he understand why he needs Jesus? Pray that the Lord will give you wisdom when speaking to him....it is God who will soften his heart but not until he is humbled. He needs to hear the gospel of Jesus Christ- about the seriousness of sin and hell. That is the only way someone can truly clutch onto the salvation of Jesus Christ and understand the Love of Jesus! If you leave that out, they are getting a half gospel and we should never do that- we should never water it down or sugar coat it... Also, here is a good verse for wives who have unbelieving husbands:

1 Peter 3:1
Wives, in the same way be submissive to your husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives,

-Pray that the Lord would draw him, continue praying earnestly, because God knows your heart and hears your prayers~

Answer 5

First of all, pray, and pray hard! That will help tremendously. Second, leave him at the feet of Jesus. Many people have a hard time with the ways of the Lord. "Why do bad things happen to good people?" A timeless question. We recently lost a brand new convert in our church. As a matter of fact he died last night. But it was just his time and he was prepared to go.

Answer 6

WHAT? You're trying to take a leadership role in the family. Bad girl.

Ephesians 5:22, 5-24:

"Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord"

"Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything"

I Peter 3:1,

"Like wise you wives, be in subjection to your own husbands"



(I'm just messing with you)

Answer 7

Pray for him, study the Bible, go to your preacher, ask God for help. I would read the Book of Romans with him. Just start talking to him, God will do the rest, trust me. God Bless I'm praying for you!

Answer 8

I would just leave him alone. I don't think he's having trouble believing. He just doesn't believe - there's nothing troubling about that. There are many reasons why someone would come to that decision and it sounds to me as if his uncertainty is starting to make sense to you. Perhaps it should.

By the way, you can't be that bad off if you have a computer and internet access. There are a lot of other things more essential than a computer to taking care of yourselves. I suggest you apply your resources in that direction.

Answer 9

The hard truth is, if he is not of the elect, the chosen ones of God, he will not be saved. I know this is difficult to accept, but it is Biblical. If he is asking questions, could be a good sign that the Spirit is working on him.
I can give you some apologetic sights to help answer his questions:
http://www.carm.org/index.html
http://contenderministries.org/
http://aomin.org/
http://www.answersingenesis.org/

Hope these help answer those questions and I truly hope he is one of His sheep.

Answer 10

You should start by praying for him. Ask him to study the Bible with you and you can find answers together. Along the way he will come to understand the truth and love the Lord. Good luck, God Bless and I will pray for him tonight, too.

Answer 11

well, i'll tell you right away i'm not a christian. but i was raised as one and my mother is very devote. i believe that she would tell him, that even though god loves you, he is testing you. you can't expect handouts directly from god, you must prove yourself.
but i must ask you not to shove your religion down his throat. if he is asking questions and wants to learn so he can become more like you, that's ok. but if you really loved him, you could let him be what he wants to be.
and don't worry about missing him in heaven. there can be no sadness in heaven, therefore you could not logically have any memory of life on earth.