what is the right age to have the talk with your kids?

Answer 1

I think the right time is when you see that they are maturing and are interested in others sexes. To ignore what is and comes natural and not educate is a crimes. That age could be as early as 9-10 for some and 12-14 for others, I think it depends on each child and their parents. Some parents could never explain and the kids need to have a reliable place to learn.

Answer 2

it does vary from kid to kid, but it is better not to wait to long and do it in stages.

When they are about 6 or so, have a simple talk - men and women are different, and there is a very special act reserved for married couples called sex and when a mommy and a daddy want a baby, they have sex and a baby is created. Just that, no descriptions, no pictures, etc. We did that when ours were 6, and they never asked for details.

We did it because we knew they were hearing the word SEX from older kids and on tv, so we wanted them to know FROM US, that sex is something that happens between men and women who are adults and that babies are made that way. We also believe it should be for married couples, so we shared that as well.

When they are older, maybe 9 or 10, we will go into more detail but for now, we just did the very basics.

Answer 3

When their born it starts,and goes right through their whole life,whats the point of waiting for the right age it just makes it harder...You should be talking to your kids all the time so when they have a ?? they no where to ask!!! Being open and honest is the best policy..

Answer 4

I think 10 is the right age because it's the time they start passing through puberty, and also when they pass through puberty they understand things alot more. Buy these days Children as young as 5 know alot of things, so I guess if they do come around to asking a question just give them a mild answer just mild enough for them to understand :)

Answer 5

I raised 4 kids alone. I never knew what age they were ready, so I left it up to mother nature to clue me in.

I had the talk with them when they asked! IF they didn't ask, and I seen that they were getting to the age of understanding, I think around 5th grade, I sat down and asked them if they had any questions on sex, man and women, and they opened up and the questions came pouring out!!

I'm also a firm believer in being honest about what is what!! Never tell them it's the birds and bees..............were humans, not bugs nor fowl!

Answer 6

It depends on how sheltered your children are from the world. I would do it ASAP, because its best for you to tell them than them hearing in school from other children, getting it off of tv, or asking someone on the internet. Details vary with age, but if you have a great relationship with your children the pros and CONS about sex, you shouldn't have any worries about going into details. The STD part was a real scare for me. AIDS is even worse.

Answer 7

When you notice them being sneaky about a lot of things. How about around 10 years old. Kids learn so much at an early age, it's crazy! Stop them at the stop light!



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Answer 8

It really depends on where their maturity level is. Some kids are ready at 9 while some would be scared to death and is better to wait until they are 12.

Answer 9

I made the mistake of asking where babies come from when I was three and my mother bought a ton of "Where Babies Come From" books and overwhelmed me a bit, and then expected me to remember everything. So when I was eight she asked me if I had started my period yet (because she started hers really young) and I had no idea what a period was, and she broke out all the books again.
If your child is really young when it begins to ask about babies, explain that a mommy and daddy make the baby with their love, and the mommy keeps the baby in her tummy so it can stay warm and be fed for a few months...just start small, and dumb it down. But never understimate the curiosity of a child. If the kid starts asking more questions get one of those books that is aimed at children, NOT older kids. Just keep it painfully simple with minimal details, so the child doesn't horrify stuffy "holier than thou" types at get-togethers or church with it's expansive knowledge of sex.
Also, like somebody else said above, make sure the kid knows the technical terms for genitalia. Don't call it a hoo-hoo or a wee-wee. Although, funny story: my best friend has a son, who is my God child and she taught him the proper names for things when he was about three, and I came over one day and the kid ran up to me and without saying hello or anything, shouted "YOU HAVE A VAGINA!" and ran off to another room. As a cynical type person, and seeing as how I hadn't had any caffeine yet that day, my only response was "thanks for noticing."
Also, one last tip. Make sure your husband knows what a period is. I know this sounds retarded, but one of my friends in school started her period when her mother was away on a business trip and her father freaked out and took her to the emergency room. If you think for one minute that your husband could not handle the situation, or if you feel uncomfortable with ANY man dealing with that situation, and you happen to not be at home, make sure your husband and daughter know of another adult female (like an aunt, grandma, or trusted family friend) who can explain things to your daughter in your absence, and when you get home explain that you are sorry you weren't there for her, but if she has any more questions to ask, that you are available now.
My mother insisted on taking me out to a special dinner when I started my period and I was absolutely horrified because I was SURE that complete strangers would know that I had started my period. Another friend I had in school (and all her sisters) was given a really pretty ring when she started her period. I always thought that was a good way to go.
Sorry for getting off topic.

Answer 10

I would say 12 or 13.