2006-12-11 07:39:02 · 12 answers · asked by weezie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It should have started when he learned how to talk and understand what you were saying. You can try now also. If he's living at home, then give him options. He can either go to school and live at home. Or he can work and pay rent at home. If he refuses to do either, then you need to tell him to move out. This will help him grow up really quick. Even if he doesn't grow up at first, if he's smart, he'll come around.
2006-12-11 07:45:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is 20 years old, he is no longer a boy, but a man. If you are his parent, then you have taught him all you can at this point in his life. He needs to make his own decisions and live with the consequences. If you want to give suggestions and advice, that is fine, but in the end, he'll have to decide what he is going to do. Learning to be responsible begins when a child is young and must be encouraged and reinforced until he is old enough to make his own choices.
2006-12-11 15:49:44 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Responsibility is best cultivated through accumulating experiences. Age really doesn't matter. I have met people in there 60s that have lived in a box and are not very responsible. It is easy to say that someone needs to be more responsible but it is not as easy to create loving experiences that foster responsibility. Many people who lack responsibility have lacked the people responsible for cultivating it. Some people lack confidence in themselves to be as responsible as the models that have been set before them, so the don't even try. In this case their self efficacy needs to be built up. This is different from esteem although efficacy will lead to esteem. Good luck.
2006-12-11 15:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! Some people take more time than others. I know a friend who was the most irresponsible person ever. At the age of 27 he had a son and boy did his world change. Now, he's one of the most responsible parties I know. Give it time, it might take a life changing experience to wake him up!
2006-12-11 15:45:14 · answer #4 · answered by Steve H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no age is too old. My son learned responsibility when he was around 16. he took out the trash, swept the floor, ect.. I gave him allowance and said the more I saw him work the more he would earn. Now he works like every second he can but now that he has a job he supports himself
2006-12-11 15:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by justinbowen2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as he has to fend for himself, he will become responsible. The world has a way of teaching us those things. It's funny how that works. As long as someone is supporting him though, he will never become responsible.
2006-12-11 15:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Jade 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have him enlist in the USMC. They will teach him. BTW, 20 years old is not a boy but a man.
2006-12-11 15:41:58 · answer #7 · answered by c.s. 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
YES... At least from you. If you haven't taught your children by then, it's out of your hands. You're like 18 years too late.
And I wouldn't call him a boy anymore
2006-12-11 15:47:46 · answer #8 · answered by CJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can sure try too, but i depends on if they want to be responsible or not. It's hard to make someone be something if they don'w want to be. But trying never hurts
2006-12-11 15:41:43 · answer #9 · answered by jenandybell03 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think at 20 you should be figuring put how to make yourself responsible!!
2006-12-11 15:41:38 · answer #10 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋