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I am married to a man for 15 yrs.he has been using threats to control me and now he is using money to accomplish the same thing which is control.I am getting anxiety and feel that I can no longer trust this person. My sleep, and behavior is affected. I certainly don't want to take medication but I am interested in talking to someone a professsional who can teach me how to sort through things to find peace of mind and a better feeling that I am in control on my life. any suggestions . Thanx

2006-12-11 07:24:21 · 7 answers · asked by m & m 2 in Health Mental Health

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you need a mental health therapist, look in the phone book for one near you.

2006-12-11 07:27:57 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 0 0

Wow, tough situation. My thoughts & prayers are with you, during this tough time. I would try calling around if you want to talk to someone, call the National Domestic Violence Hot line at: 1-800-799-7233 (1-800-799-SAFE) they could potentially give you contact information for a counselor or advocate in your area to help you, I have no first hand experience with what you're going through but I would think this all should be confidential so if you do not what him to know you're reaching out for assistance he won't know. Be sure to mention that if that's how you want it to be. Another resource I am familiar with is the YWCA they also help women, so hang in there and reach out for the help it's there for a reason. I am 26 years old and have seen my mother go through a controlling and abusive relationship and its no way to live.

2006-12-11 07:34:05 · answer #2 · answered by kasey 2 · 0 0

An MFT (marriage and family therapist), may be helpful. You can even have sessions with your husband so perhaps he can understand how his actions are affecting you so maybe HE can learn to act differently as well. However, his using threats and money to control you sounds like it may be emotional abuse. If this is the case, I wouldn't suggest bringing him or even telling him that you are going to a therapist because it may escalate his bad behavior if he knows you are trying to seek outside help. People who need to be in control don;t deal well when they find out thaat they may be losing some of their control over someone else. GOod luck and PLEASE be careful.

2006-12-11 07:36:22 · answer #3 · answered by EnigmaGirl 3 · 0 0

Talk to a behavorial counselor. Look under "Counseling / Psychologists" in your Yellow Pages phone book.

2006-12-11 07:28:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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2016-10-18 03:04:49 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

I've read some of the answers you've received & they are good suggestions. My first thought was to contact a psychologist.

2006-12-11 07:50:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sheryl R 4 · 0 0

a counselor..... or psychologist, not psychiatrist..... they can help you out by listening and offering advice, make sure you tell them up front that you dont want to be taking medications though!

2006-12-11 07:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by heaven-sin-t 4 · 0 0

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