OK this is a lil long, but I met this guy about a year ago, and we started out as friends. But now its very werid bc it feels like a relationship. He doesn't kick it with other girls, and he spends all day texting me and everynight talking with me on the phone. We spend time together whenever he's free, and he recently took me home to meet his family, and now he says his mom asks about me, and wants to know when I am going to come over again. We have planned a trip together just the 2 of us, and I am going to moving to San Diego in about a year, and we talked about both moving out there. I even promised to never walk away from him, and we have said I love you to eachother. Whats the deal? Are we just friends? I need help before I lose my mind because I don't understand this,and no one I know can figure it out.
2006-12-11 07:24:01 · 24 answers · asked by Sami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
And he claims that were just good friends, but I have good guy friends, and my relationships with them is NOTHING like this.
2006-12-11 07:26:19 · update #1
I'm scared to ask him how he feels bc if he truly thinks its a friendship I don't want to ruin it. I am scared to push him away.
2006-12-11 07:29:59 · update #2
Why don't you just ask him how he feels about you, and if he likes you as more than a friend.
2006-12-11 07:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by wsguy1983 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me its an unofficial romantic realationship,but perhaps he is nervous about making it official. Maybe he's worried that things will change if you say its more then a friendship. Basically I think what I'm trying to say is perhaps he's afraid of a finalized commitment. Right now he doesn't have to worry too much because he can always claim that it was never official, ya know? But I think you really need to sit down and talk about this. Tell him how you feel, and if you want it official or not. And tell him that if it is official things won't change, that maybe they'll even get better. :) You guys sound like a really sweet couple though. I wish you the best! â¥
~~Oh, Edit time! ~~ Don't be afraid to ask him, just tell him you simply want to get things straight, so you don't wait around for something that he doesn't want to evolve into something more. If you are as close as you say, thing's will be fine. :)
2006-12-11 15:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by 2D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the only person that can answer if you love him. You should talk to him if you are not sure what is going on he might be waiting for you to make the first move on saying something about it. You can love somebody and just be friends or their is the other love for a special person. Ask yourself do you have feelings for him not just as a friend. What do you want? Do you want to spend your life with him? When he is not around are you thinking about him or wondering about him ? Just listen to what you heart is saying to you.You will know when it happens. Good Luck I hope it works out.
2006-12-11 15:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by helpmom26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not official until it's been stated that the relationship is exclusive.
Have you both had a discussion at all on being exclusive or the general direction of the relationship?
Ask him where he wants the friendship/relationship to go and then go from there.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 15:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Tempest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's best that you ask him this question. From what you're saying, it seems like you're in more than just a friendship relationship.
Sit down and talk to him and get his opinions. Communication is key and can help avoid any embarrasing or uncomfortable situations for either of you.
2006-12-11 15:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by jastorsjeep 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and ask him what's going on. Ask him about the type of relationship you two have or would like to have. Get a clear understanding of where your relationship is.
2006-12-11 15:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him out if u like him. if he says yeah then obviously he is looking for more then friendship he wants a relationship with you. if he says no he still might like you but he might not want to risk the friendship u guys built up over this time. good luck
2006-12-11 15:27:29 · answer #7 · answered by bchbumsparadise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds complicated.. but he may not want to tell you that he is in to you.. or he could really just be good friends.. he may just not like to kick it with other girls.. cause he just dont wanna kick it with other girls..the trip could be just something to do with you before you move if he doesnt go with you to san diego.. him introducing him to his parents could be just a friend thing too. who knows but i definitely would ask him about it.. and tell your feelings and get his feelings. just so your on the same page.
2006-12-11 15:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by pebbles_cubbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he likes you and that he is just scared to tell you. Just good friends dont spend that much time together. Trust me he wants more then a friendship and that he is just scared to tell you.
2006-12-11 15:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by jessica c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you two are together as a couple just never asked one another about it.....
I would set him down and say hey are we a couple or just friends/// Stop asking other people they cant tell you what he is thinking just go for it you have nothing to loose.
2006-12-11 15:27:26 · answer #10 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋