They broke up 4 years ago and he's still wearing a neck chain from her and they are still pretty much in contact, I also found her lastest pictures on regular basis in his computer (either it was him who asked her or she was the one who sent them). The reason for the break up is she got another guy and she is a very flirtatious girl. Not only that, his mom kept calling me with his ex gf name for several times. Beforehand, he also used to mention her name in our conversation e.g if we passed thru a shop then he would said: my ex got that bag!
I'm confused and quite sad about this.
2006-12-11 07:18:14 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have tried to bring it up nicely with a soft tone and made some talk about it, but then he started to yelled and called me: paranoid and mental!
2006-12-11 07:56:48 · update #1
LEAVE HIM BECAUSE HE OBVIOUSLY IS NOT OVER HER AND HE IS MERELY SEEING YOU AS HIS REBOUND GIRL....YOU WILL SAVE YOURSELF A HEARTACHE IN THE END. GOOD LUCK :)
2006-12-11 07:23:11 · answer #1 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. If my boyfriend did this I would be SO pissed. Just straight up tell him how it is. Tell him to take off the chain and to stop talking about his ex. There is NO excuse for that no matter what, its just flat out ridiculous. The only thing I can think of as to why he would talk about her is to make you jealous. But still, no need for it, it's just mean.
Also, the pictures on the computer?? COME ON!.. That's beyond rude, I would completely flip out on him. And if he still likes her for some odd reason then you need to move on from him. The only thing you can do here is talk to him about it and don't beat around the bush. You need to find out exactly what the hell he's thinking.
Another thing: If you find it hard bringing this up to him then you shouldn't be dating. Being open and honest about everything is the key here.
RELATIONSHIPS ARE SUPPOSED TO MAKE LIFE BETTER NOT HARDER.
and NOBODY LIKES A DRAMA KING!.. haha (meaning your boyfriend).. it seems he likes to stir up the pot
Good luck with this.
2006-12-11 15:27:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I highly doubt you will ever find a guy that doesnt have an ex....so you're going to need to learn how to deal with them. Men talk about what htey know..and they dont generally think about the deep things us g irls do. If he is wearing the chain, tis probably cuz he likes the chain itself and not so much cuz his ex bought it for him. And his mother? Well us mothers cant call our own kids by their right names half the time, so its perfectly natural she would mistakenly call you her name. Get over it. This is life. You need to be secure within yourself and of yourself and let this go. Like I said..there is ALWAYS going to be an ex, always. But..they are an ex for a reason and you are the current for a reason. So dont dwell on the Ex..or you'll find yourself the OTHER Ex...
2006-12-11 15:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's still very much in love with her! this is how u can tell, buy him a neck chain bigger and better than one one he has from her! tell him to let u have the one that he's wearing from her, if he gives it to u with no problem, then it will prove who he loves,and if he doesn't then ur need to break up with him.i think he's scared of the truth of course he could be Hiding something from u and think ur stupid please don't wast ur time on this guy no matter what an ex should be an ex.
2006-12-11 15:38:45 · answer #4 · answered by Kas-O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset and not sad by that. It sounds as though your boyfriend still has feelings for his ex or else he would have put the chain away. If it bothers you so much, talk to him about it or buy him a new chain.
2006-12-11 15:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not yet over her, clearly. You can either end it until he's ready, or you can help him get past her.
One thing is for certain. He really loved her, so you know what could be in store for you.
Tell him it hurts you when he refers to her. Assure him its not about jealousy. When it comes right down to it ask him what shes got that you havent got. Don't get pissed with what he tells you. It may just snap him out of it, or you may find out that you are the rebound relationship.
Be brave girl, you have the right to be happy and recieve true love.
2006-12-11 15:25:47 · answer #6 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he's definitely tied to her and apparently so is his mom. I'd leave that alone.
By the way have you asked why he continues to wear the chain? Have you asked him not to in consideration of your feelings? You can also ask his opinion on friendships with exes.
Honestly though, I would leave, the sooner the better so you're less tied up in it.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 15:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by Tempest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is ans idiot. Sit him down and ask him how he would feel if you did the same thing. If he is an asshole about it, seriously, leave the bastard. You should be with a guy that makes you feel good about yourself all the time. Life is too short to be sad about some stupid guy.
2006-12-11 15:31:21 · answer #8 · answered by Tori H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I still wear a necklace my ex gave to me but not bc of him mainly bc its nice and i dont have the means to replace it and i get so many compliments on it but I can say...my ex kepy all pictures of his ex and wouldnt throw them out I was furious he didnt throw em out, we broke up. So men are different he might still like her bc what guy in general is wearing a darn necklace.
2006-12-11 15:25:46 · answer #9 · answered by visitor42353 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys r not sentimental, mine doesn't remember what he got me 4 my birthday a few months ago, BUT to ask them to get rid of something they can still use even if it is form an ex, they will say WHY? i can still use it.
2006-12-11 15:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, That must hurt, only thing is do you care enough to wait it out?
He will get over her eventually.
You need to let him know in the mean time that it hurts you and contact with her is a no no.
2006-12-11 15:27:19 · answer #11 · answered by jrnwy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋