I am nearly 25 years old and my mother and I have been very close since I got into my 20s. We use to talk on the phone every day but now that I am engaged and busy with life in general I don't always have time to talk to her as much now. She always writes to me and asks if I am okay saying I was quite at dinner or something. How do I tell her everything is fine? And why is she thinking I am not okay when I am the best I have ever been.
2006-12-11 07:14:53 · 18 answers · asked by Colleen D 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she knows that you are growing up and she thinks she is losing you and this is the only way she can think of trying to be a helpful mother to you. as you get older and you are really on your own, you'll probably be hearing her say that you look tired, worn out (really not meaning to be negative) just because this is what mothers do - it's there way of thinking that we cannot do without them - and that's find - but, i think we all wish that they could find a better way of reacting to our growing up and away. it would be so nice if they could treat us as equals and be a friend to us - because we really are out there on our own by the age of 25. so, to answer your question, don't worry, she really does know that everything is fine - but this is just the mother in her coming out. give her a kiss and say - mom, i love you, stop worrying about me, i am the best i have ever been - be happy for me. if ever i have a problem, you know that i would come to you for advice - so just relax and know i am doing great!
2006-12-11 07:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to first make sure that everything is ok. Mom's can sense things that you may not even be aware of. Ask her why she thinks something wrong. If it is because you are quiet at dinner when you are normally more talktative then try explaining to her why the change in behavior. The bottom line she is just worried about you. No matter how old you get that will never change.
2006-12-11 07:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HONEY!! Cause she is a momma!! Be thankful that you have a mom that cares. You're still young and some momma's need time to fully let go --- some never do... but.. perhaps scheduling 30 min.-1 hour PER DAY... to call your mom and talk to her. This will help her anxious feelings to subside.
You said that you both were very close.... that feeling doesn't just go away...you know? Eventually, she will let go.
Also....momma's have a 6th sense about things sometimes.... enjoy the attention and just ride the wave!
Hope this helps.
2006-12-11 07:18:53 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Porter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she probably sees you being quiet at dinner and being less available as you avoiding her. you were both close before you got engaged and now you have replaced her with a man. she is just concerned. sit down and talk with her about the changes in your life and that you have new priorities now that you are planning a wedding. just be sure to let her know that you love her just as much as you always have...but that you are focusing more of your energies elsewhere.
2006-12-11 07:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youre mom probably wants to be more involved in your life, i mean u are engaged and now that ur soon to be married you'll be youre own woman and taking care of your own family. theres no doubt that she misses you and she just wants reassurance that you are okay and doing good. my guess would be that she probably wants to spend more time with you and get at you now before all the marriage issues come into play because then youll be too busy for her.
2006-12-11 07:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not that busy with your life that you don't have time for your mom. You have time to ask this question you have time to pick up the phone and call her or send her a little card just because you're thinking of her. She misses you.
2006-12-11 07:27:35 · answer #6 · answered by carmelapple2001us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you haven't been talking to her as much. Maybe she thinks that you are trying to hide something.. just let her know how happy you are and make it a point to try and talk to her at least every other day.
2006-12-11 07:19:02 · answer #7 · answered by ((♥)) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just hard for her to let go. Especially when you have gotten so close after you turned 18. Me and my father went through the same thing. They always want to take care of you.
2006-12-11 07:19:33 · answer #8 · answered by okl49ers5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers will always worry! Send her a sweet card if u do not always have the time to talk.
2006-12-11 07:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be thankful you have your mom to ask if your ok. cherish the time you have with her and would it be so hard to humor her in your wedding. ask her what she thinks. no one said you have to use her suggestion but it would make her feel like you still want her in your life. too many people alienate by saying that they have no time. make time for those you love
2006-12-11 07:19:26 · answer #10 · answered by Kris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋