We have been working together for 2 yrs. I knew about her sexuality and now she is hitting on me telling me how attracted she is to me. We always flirt when we go out but harmlessly. I want to experiment with her but am not sure if it will ruin our friendship. Has anyone dealt with that before?
2006-12-11 07:12:16 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's a tough one ... since she works with you ... but if you both are mature enough to handle the " day after " ... then you should be just fine ... be sure to ask her questions ... !
What is she getting out of this
Will she expect it to happen all the time
Will it be a on the down low or not at the office
Does she " like " you ... or is she in love with you
Does she expect you to date her
Does she expect you to like nothing but women afterwards
There's lots and lots you need to cover before you try things out ... that way if it ever does happen you know exactly where each other stands afterwards ... be careful with her though if she's all lesbian - she might get hurt if you sleep with her just for " experimental purposes " ... sex is emotional wither or not you think it is ... and it already sounds like she's really into you emotionally not just sexually ... enter with caution ... lol ... !
Other than that ... I say go for it ... I did when I was 18 & in the Military ... it really made me open my eyes up to sex ... and it showed me it's ok to enjoy what you feel inside of you ... hard to explain but your curiosity alone tells me you might understand ... !
2006-12-11 07:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look, it doesn't matter if it's gay or straight sex; but sex is sex and all the same rules apply: like sleeping with a coworker; sleeping with a friend; having sex before you're married; etc. Pretty much none of those things is a good idea whether it was a man or a woman. Would you do if it was a man? If yes, then use your judgement here; if no, then don't do it, because it doesn't make it better because she's a woman...
2006-12-11 07:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by Pooky 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
I strongly suggest you read Karrien Sim Peters answer several times, and if you are a person of reality, I think you need to come out of the closet and admit to yourself that you are perhaps a latent lesbian just waiting to happen. . . . . . .and opportunity is knocking.
If you are truly straight as you say, what happens when you meet the guy of your dreams, . . . .are you just going to be fair, and do em both? And what if it turns into a serious relationship, who you gonna dump? What about the marriage part and a home and children, or will all that become null and void because of your experiment?
Your whole future depends on your choice, so what's it gonna be,
" Deal . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .or no deal??? "
You are close to making a big, big mistake,. . . . but it's your life,
Darryl S.
2006-12-11 07:47:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're going to have to talk to her to figure it out. Since it is her first lesbian relationship she may be very scared and unsettled by what she is feeling or it may be that its just not the right thing for her. You're just have to sit her down and talk it out and find out how she is feeling and why she is acting the way she is. Let her know that you want things to be good and she can tell you anything but if she can't open up and talk about it then you are going to have to end it with her. Your relationship is never going to last or improve unless the two of you can communicate honestly.
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I am straight but my lesbian coworker wants to have sex with me?
We have been working together for 2 yrs. I knew about her sexuality and now she is hitting on me telling me how attracted she is to me. We always flirt when we go out but harmlessly. I want to experiment with her but am not sure if it will ruin our friendship. Has anyone dealt with that before?
2015-08-07 04:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty speaking, after you do it you will hate yourself for it. You will disgust yourself and you will get loss. Finally, you can't stand it you may end up ending your-life. Until you can find yourself to forgive and lie to yourself then you continue living. I heard this story before very similar situation. But the best is to stay away from it. Sometime it is good not to know than to know.
It is just like when I was young I fall in love with someone I think she is most beautiful girl in the world until I saw her 10 years later..., and I wish I didn't see her so that I can still imagine her as one of the most beautiful girl. This is what I meant sometime it is best not to know. But good luck your decision.
2006-12-11 07:46:48 · answer #6 · answered by nobody 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You say you want to "experiment" with her. Would you treat the situation the same way if this were a male friend? Do not make any moves or mess with her head in any way - she takes her sexuality and seriously as you take yours, and would be very hurt if you made a mockery out of the relationship.
2006-12-11 07:15:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
hey there is no need to ask if any one has been there & how did it turn out b/c no two situations are ever the same, if its what you wanna try then go 4 it & have fun~ look it totally depends on the bond & understanding the 2 of you already HAVE ESTABLISHED~ as long as thats rock solid then you dont even have anything to worry about just dont go into this with your eyes wide SHUT!!!!! Good luck & Best Wishes!!!
2006-12-11 07:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
good one why don't you two sit down and talk about the consequences i am mean if you are old enough to do it you should be able to talk like two adults i think you might like it i am straight but have experimented i loved it you only live once
2006-12-11 07:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by simply me 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
first off, Sex is not the term used for lesibeans. I mean sex is for like male and female. I call that disgusting, awful, and needs help kind of person.
2006-12-11 07:17:18 · answer #10 · answered by Lizzie 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋