ok, i've met this guy and we've talked for awhile.. i know him pretty well and i just intended on us being friends and so did he.. well last night he came to watch a program i was in and afterwards we went to dairy queen for ice cream. after that we went to the park just having intentions on talking, we LOVE just to talk! well we were spinning on this thing and it stopped and when i got up and turned around he was just right there... and it just happend... we kissed.... after that we just kinda made out and now i can't stop thinking about him!! but the problem is that i'm engaged to another person whose given me so much and i still love them! but i still don't know what to do.. what would you do?! honest and serious answers! please..
2006-12-11 07:10:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ok first of all i don't party anymore, just haven't changed my name.. and i'm not already married ok? and i will NOT have an affair! sizzlin or not, i don't care.. i won't do it.. last night just happend..
2006-12-11 07:16:12 · update #1
wow... that's abit hard... so u luv both guys... it's tuff to choose... if i were u.. i would try telling the new guy abt the engagement... try doin that.. tell em that ur already engaged to someone else... if he is a nice gyu he would stop everyhtin that been happened between u too n jus talk... u noe.. since u both love talkin he would do jus that.. talk.. but if he didn't listen or care abt ur engagement then u should stay away from em... but then i don think he'd do such a thing...
n again u need to think abt ur fiance too.. give em a chance... look this way... if their was a cookie n u saw it before i did.. u get to hav it.. cuz u saw it first... in this case.. ur fiance saw u first n he wants u... so give em a chance to proove that he likes u more then the other guy does..... n see which one like u the best.. ..
if u think both of them like u the same way.. then... go for ur feelin... wat does ur guts say... which one do u like / comfortable spendin more time w/ ... who treats u special... ask ur self questions.. do u get goosybumps when u r w/ that special person... which one do u feel more comfortable w/.... w/ one is more like ur type... which one makes u happy... which one makes u feel specail... only u have the answer for all these questions... ask ur self... n come to a decision... think wise... do u think that the person would keep u happy all ur life... u r the one who have to live w/ that person.... so choose the right one...
2006-12-11 07:27:22 · answer #1 · answered by ifaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved your fiance you would have stopped the other guy after the first time he kissed you. But honestly if you wanted nothing more with this other guy you wouldnt have been going out to the dairy queen and to the park with him, you should be doing all those things with your fiance. I feel so bad for your fiance, you are going to break his heart, but you will also be doing him a favor because he doesnt deserve someone that will do that do him. why would you even want to be around anyone else. When I was engaged to my husband I didnt even know anyone else existed, I was so drop dead in love with him (I still am) and I didnt bother with anyone else. He was more than enough for me. I wanted him for everything, I felt no need to have anyone other "friends" because he was all the friend I needed.
2006-12-11 15:18:26 · answer #2 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing, I would seriously question my engagement. If I was able to make out with someone else, I don't think I would be ready to be engaged.
Am I engaged to someone because they have given me so much and will be able to continue giving to me? That is not love as love is unconditional, without expectation and without need. That is a trade agreement. I give up my dating other people in exchange for the security a husband can bring with the expectation of him meeting my needs.
The greatest gift love can give is honesty and the greastest gift to myself is love and honesty with myself.
You owe only love and honesty to yourself and others. Beyond that, you owe no one anything.
You get to choose what to do and know that what you do reflects who you are. If you are doing something you don't like, change it. You have no control over how others will react or what they'll do, but you can recognize there are possibilities and respond accordingly.
There's no right or wrong here, only the opportunity for awareness and getting to know yourself and what you would choose.
2006-12-11 15:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged to someone else, then you have cheated on them and you need to talk this out with someone who you really respect.
You are in quite a little pickle because someone is going to get hurt. Be very careful how you handle this.
I would make a list of all the wonderful things about my fiance and concentrate on him. Sometimes these little flirtations can derail the relationship you are meant to be in.
From now on and until you break your engagement, remember that you are in fact engaged. Grow up and take it seriously!
2006-12-11 15:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by darrellkern 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age, please?
When I read the entire first part of your question, I thought you were probably between 16 and 19. Then you said you were engaged. Judging from what you have written, it seems that you are not ready to get married at this time. You need to come clean, because all things are revealed in time. It will be worse if your fiancee finds out AFTER you are married.
2006-12-11 15:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, this guy knows you are engaged, so evidently he is cool with it. If you play your cards right, you can get married and have a sizzling affair with this guy on the side. Come on, you know that would be hot!!
2006-12-11 15:14:15 · answer #6 · answered by taldrkhandsme14u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you migh want to really think hard about it if you have feelings for this other guy and he for you then you shouldn marry your fiance. it wouldn be fair to him or you if your unsure about your feelings. but if you definetly have feelings for this other guy than you should break off your engagement before its too late. you wouldn want to get married and then have what if thoughts it could destroy your marriage before it even had a chance. if you dont have feelings for this guy then you prob shoudn be friends for awhile cause it could still be tempting and you dont want to do that. go away for a weekend by yourself or with a close girlfriend and think about it and what you want. Good luck
2006-12-11 15:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by mk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay wid the one ur engadged to because u dnt wanna hurt him hunny xxxxx
2006-12-11 15:12:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the partying has gone to your head... you could have stopped it.. thats ******* gross
2006-12-11 15:13:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋