My boyfriend and I have been going through alot he cheated on me by sleeping with someone else i thought i could move on and except it but i can't now he wants to be with me but i dont feel the same i mean i thought that's what i wanted but now im not soo sure, oh by the way we live in completly different states right now, he says he wants me to come back to where he is but im not so sure i should, what do you think???
2006-12-11 07:09:05 · 13 answers · asked by Dimplez87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Once a cheater..........
dont do it. You're obviously having doubts. That should speak volumes to you. More than any answers you'll get here.
2006-12-11 07:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should do what your heart tells you to do. It is a hard thing to trust someone who tore your heart strings out by cheating. If you don't feel it in your heart, it is time to move on. If you have given it a chance and you still don't feel it, I would move on. Did you try counseling? It makes it double hard when you don't even live in the same state. I have been cheated on several times and I find that they usually do it again. I do know people who can work it out and have. My aunt's husband cheated with my uncles wife. One still stayed married. It would be very hard, but it can work. It doesn't feel any better the second time they do it, so now, I do not give them a second chance. I have now found a truly honest man with the up most morals and values that I have looked for. It is so worth waiting for the right person to come along and treat me with the respect I deserve. I would suggest you search in your heart and do what you feel is the strongest urging. Don't let the past pull you back into the old habits. There is far better waiting for you ahead. Hugs to you.
2006-12-11 07:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know your boyfriend, and I don't know you, but I don't think you should stay with him. If he's cheated on you at this point in your relationship, he will probably just do it again. And how much worse would it be when you were married and had a kid or two? Even if you didn't (marry him, I mean), it would just be hard to trust him again. It doesn't SOUND like he is a real winner, and can you really believe he loves you if he cheated on you? You deserve better than that; there are plenty of guys out there--Cut him loose and wait for someone who TRULY loves you and would NEVER hurt you.
2006-12-11 07:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by Pooky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly leave that alone.
He cheated, He cheated, He cheated, He cheated...
You say you don't feel the same-go with your gut (instinct)
If you moved, would you be moving solely for him? Do you have a support system there.? It seems from what you wrote ("come back to where he is") that you moved there before and things didn't work. I wouldn't risk it, if anything he should be coming and moving to where you are if he really wanted to make things work.
Again, I'd leave that alone. Of course it's always easier said than done. Take time out to take care of you and to focus on you and everything else will follow.
Good luck!
2006-12-11 07:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Tempest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He cheated so he didnt respect you as a person and your relationship. Obviously he doesn't deserve you. You should let time heal and start out dating eachother all over again w/o the sex and see where that takes you if you really want to work on this relationship. You should really find someone who is worhty of your love and take care of it.
2006-12-11 07:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by mvang_7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've answered you own question.
You can't move on. You're still stuck on what he did, and you don't know if you can trust him again. (Being in different states definitely isn't helping that feeling either.) If that's how you truly feel, let him go.
Find you a guy nearer to your heart, if not nearer to your body. You'll be happier in the long run.
2006-12-11 07:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by peter n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your heart is he truly some one you want to be with can you forgive and forget if you can't be with him with out the fact that he cheat staying in the back of your mind or throwing it in his face then it'll never work cuz there be no trust I guess you need to ask yourself do you truly love this man
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-11 07:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Young and Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheater always a cheater. Just remember he had no respect for you the first go around why would it be any different this time? I personally would move one and find someone better. Good luck.
2006-12-11 07:12:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sara 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Once a cheater alwayz a cheater!!!!!
Don't take him back or things go go even worse for u and in the end all u'll have 2 show 4 it is heartache.
2006-12-11 07:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey~ its your life & totally your decision, but you said yourself you arent sure, so dont!! & if by chance you still in someway wanna see oe sex him, then you can without the ties... no need to rush into anything epecially with someone you arent to sure about giving your all to, u know what you want & how you want it & there is no need to even consider settling for less than what you deserve....
2006-12-11 07:14:01 · answer #10 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you can forgive him totally and move on past this and trust him again. Id say work it out but take it slow.but if youll never forget and trust again dont waste yours or his time.
2006-12-11 07:13:14 · answer #11 · answered by little_gizmo2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋