Advice on how to make my bf understand?????

Question

I am 18 going to be 19 in a few months and commuting to college.My parents pay for almost everything school exc. so i have to respect there wishes. My relationship with my bf is failing though because i have a midnight curfew during the week and a 1:00 in the morning curfew on the weekends. My bf is 22 years old though and stays out till 3:00-4:00 in morning whenever he wants and does as he pleases.He is getting bored of me and i dont want to be dumped.

My dad said after the end of next year when i am living at school i can do as i please as long as my grades are up to par till then he says its his house.He wont budge!

Answer 1

i understand where youre coming from, and you have to respect your parents wishes bc they do a lot for you, if your boyfriend isnt understanding of this, then maybe he's not gonna be understanding of a lot of things, do you really want to be with a guy like this? If he doesnt understand already, chances are he wont ever, so focus on your studies, if he wants to stick with you, then good, if not when you have your own place, you will be single and having the time of your life!

Answer 2

There really is no advice on how to make him understand because if he wasn't so selfish he would already understand. He should have your best interest at heart which is you going to school (props on that by the way). If he can't understand and accept that you have the opportunity to attend school free as long as you obey your parent's wishes (which aren't harsh at all), then what else in your relationship is he selfishly whining about? I would think that you were bored of him instead of vice versa. I wouldn't want to be with someone who got mad at me because I wasn't interested in staying out till 4 in the morning on a weekend. What is there to do that late? My advice is if anything just tell him that you would like him to be considerate to the fact of your situation at the moment. If he isn't, then you need to move on and find someone who does understand. You're worth more than someone like that and you deserve better.

:) good luck

Answer 3

If he really loves you, then he will understand. I was 19 when i met my boyfriend, and he was 25. We had a similar situation. My parents made it even harder because they didn't like him. But we loved each other, and he understood my situation, and tried to make the best of the time we had together. But i also had to understand that he was 25, and able to go to bars without me. I told him that it made me uncomfortable, so he would only go to the bars with his buddies everyonce in a while, which was fine. Sometimes i also felt that he was getting bored of me, but then i would just plan a fun day for both of us, like on a saturday or sunday we would go somewhere fun. And talk to him about it if you are worried. There are going to be some tough times in any relationship, but you BOth have to work on it for it to work. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, and everything is great. We still have some tough times, you just have to be able to communicate and work through it.

Answer 4

What kind of job or school does he have if he can stay out until 3:00-4:00?

Anyway if he's a man and he cares for you he'll understand.

If he's getting bored now, what's he going to do when you're pregnant and not able to stay out all night? Even if you're married by then if he doesn't like staying home now he's not going to then either.

Answer 5

Tell him what your dad said. If he really cares about you, he'll wait till next semester, and you two can party it up. If he still is an asshole, and things don't work out, screw him. He wasn't worth your time anyway. But don't mess it up with your parents, you only have to be patient for a little longer, it will be worth the wait.
I didn't listen to my parents when they gave me curfews, and I was out partying with my 22 year old boyfriend, they stopped paying for school, sold my car, and now I live with that boyfriend, whom I love, but at the same time wish I had a car.....Good Luck!

Answer 6

don't bother with him anyway if he can't respect your parents and their rules then he's not someone you need to be with anyway. Dump him and find someone else that will care for you no matter what your curfew is. Your parents are trying to look out for you and trust if I was them curfew would be way before midnight or 1:00 and you would never be dating a 22 year old. Consider yourself blessed.

Answer 7

You have two choices, continue to accept your parents financial help, and follow their rules OR go it your own, move out, and pay for all your expenses yourself and then you can have whatever rules you want. Don't make any decision because of your boyfriend, make your decision based on what is best for you. If you really want to go to school and are not ready to support yourself, then stay at home. If you can support yourself, and are just staying at home because it is financially easier, then consider heavily the posiblity of moving out.

Answer 8

do yourself a big favor, don't stress out over this guy, if you are meant to be together you will be and if he really cares about you he will want what is best for you. School is expensive and unless your boyfriend has a nice big bank account that he is going to totally transfer to you with no strings attached then listen to your parents

Answer 9

looks like it is time for you to move on. It seems like a lot of strife to have with a bf, and I"m sure the problem is much deeper than what can be explained on yahoo answers.

Answer 10

Dump him because obviously you have other priorities like school, if he cannot understand your priorities then he's a selfish inconsiderate person who is probably sleeping with other girls at 3-4am in the morning.