my bf is in med school and is always busy studying. he and i talk on the phone daily, but hardly get to see each other. i often express to him how it annoys me and makes me sad that we don't get to spend time with each other. he says he feels the same way, but he says he's not gonna sit there and dwell on it. sometimes i feel like it doesn't really even bother him that we barely see each other, but he always says that he wants to spend time with me, and it is because of school that he can't. but now he is planning on going to hawaii for 6 weeks for a rotation. if he really misses me, then why would he choose to go there making it even less likely for us to spend time with each other. if it bothers him that he is always to busy to spend time with me, wouldnt he have not want to go away from me for 6 weeks? should i be worried that he isn't interested in me anymore?
2006-12-11 07:02:24 · 11 answers · asked by resh12340 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's going for rotation not spring fling or something he's just trying to make sure he has a good future and if that's a future you want to be apart of I'd be more supportive
Good Luck and God Bless
2006-12-11 07:09:51 · answer #1 · answered by Young and Wise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about that.... but i would get a hobby or go to school or get a job that you're interested in or something.... it will give you guys common ground to talk about. and making youself less attainable to him will make him want you even more.
it's obvious that his school is very important to him, and he probably figures it's just as much important to you. (he's a man.) sometimes men are just a little self centered at times. let him know exactly how you feel, but if it's all you talk about, then it's not gonna make a difference. try to make some time at least twice a week to spend with him, just the two of you. go to dinner or a game like bowling, where you can spend some time togheter in person. the phone is great, but it cant make a relationship survive. now, if he's totally disregarding your feelings and thoughts, then tell him immediately. if he's the kind that just dosn't care, then find someone else.
you're young, both of you. you have your whole life to be toghether. this is probably his once in a lifetime thing. just chill, k. hope it all works out. good luck!!
2006-12-11 15:13:25 · answer #2 · answered by Leasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure if you should be worried but the guy is busy with becoming a doctor and med school is not a piece of cake. He has to do what he has to do and at the moment your relationship is not in the top ten. Lets see a rotation for 6 weeks, here some place boring or Hawaii......which would you choose?
2006-12-11 15:06:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been there. Med school and his residency is going to be really tough. Its just something you have to tolerate if you want to stay together. As far as Hawaii, its work related I wouldn't worry too much about him not being interested, its just a time consuming profession.
2006-12-11 15:07:49 · answer #4 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Medical school is extremely demanding. Very successful men are completely driven; they are able to focus on their goal single-mindedly when they feel it is necessary. They do not think like us, wanting a balanced life with love, family, friends and work. They want success, and whatever time and energy is left over, he will give to you. I'm not saying its good or bad; its just how they are. How does he act when he is with you? Even then though, he might be preoccupied with school. But you know in your heart if he really loves you...
2006-12-11 15:09:38 · answer #5 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the answer already. He doesn't seem to feel the same way as you do. He has probably moved on and if not he might just like things the way they are. you should never settle! You don't like whats going on then change it!!!
2006-12-11 15:07:45 · answer #6 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not be worried that he's not interested in you anymore, but instead should be a bit more supportive of his need to study and to become the best doctor he can be.
2006-12-11 15:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
weither or not he was going to hawaii or next door~ you know in your heart, body & soul if he is interested or not!!! i understand how you feel, but from what you've written it doesnt seen to me that he isnt interested it seems hes just occupied, patience is a virtue....
2006-12-11 15:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he is playin the field while he is in school lets face it alot of women will give it up to a med student because they know he will be well off later and so will she if she gets pregnant sorry :(
2006-12-11 15:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your boyfriend is obviously focusing on school..which is a good thing. Leave him alone..stop being so obsessive as it will only turn him off.
2006-12-11 15:05:07 · answer #10 · answered by James Dean 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋