I've liked this guy (Abby) for about a year. We're not going out or anything, but we kiss and go to dances and stuff together. We really like each other. But since saturday which was a school dance (tolo) we kind of fooled around (fully clothed). I'm 15 and he's 17. We're still virgins. After the dance I layed with him in the back seat of his car, and then he kind felt like he was in pain due to laying up against the door arm rest. So we switched. I turned and laid back where I thought he was going to lay his back on me, instead he laid his stomach on me. And from there, we were I guess...humping. Dry, S.e.x. I liked it at the time. But after that, I that he drove me home (curfew). I went in the house and cried. Went and got my mom and talked with her. Today I'm avoiding him as much as possible. I saw him, and turned around and walked a different direction. Nomally I eat lunch with him, but today I'm not.
What do I do? I'm extremly depressed. I've been depressed since last thursday
2006-12-11 06:54:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate avoiding him. But seeing him, hurts me now. According to my dad, having this semi relationship with him is just killing my mom. I'm making my mom depressed. Which isn't a good thing. I'm at school currently and I can't even go to my classes I'm that stressed. I'm normally a really giddy sweet person, but now...I'm not.
I know I need to tell him how I feel. But I don't want to hurt him. But he hurt me last year. He let me go due to him wanting s.e.x. He felt really bad, so he let me go. Now this year we semi hook back up. But we're not going out. Because he has like all PRE-AP classes, so he's really focusing on school and stuff. Which I really need to be. Which I doubt I will since I'm pretty much given up on life.
I know i need to HONESTLY tell him how I feel, but I'm so scared.
2006-12-11 07:03:21 · update #1
I've always been all for having sex with him. I thought I always did feel comfortable, but as soon as he layed on him and stuff, I was done I had enough. it didn't help the last couple of days I've been really down because he's been kind of flirting with other girls on the interent *which I have no control over.* (let me remind you, we're not going out.). I've been depressed about a lot of things. Not just him.
Anways, he gets away with anything that involves girls. So here I am, actually being a good girl and trying to keep a relationship. Even when I hug a guy I'm feel like I'm cheating on him.
A couple of times, he's actually m.a.s.t.u.r.b.a.t.e.d on the web cam. But one times he did he told me "Your the first person to see me do that in Vancouver WA" (Which is were we both live). So I still question to this day, is he...master.bating on the web cam for other girls?
2006-12-11 07:08:12 · update #2
DON'T GET DEPRESSED OVER STUFF LIKE THAT! IT'S TOTALLY NORMAL. YOUR HORMONER ARE GOING CRAZY- YOU ARE 15, FOR CHRIST'S SAKE! DON'T AVOID THE GUY, YOU ARE FRIENDS! BETTER TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT AND TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL. MAYBE YOU FEEL BAD COS YOU ARE NOT "DATING"! I AM SURE THAT YOU WILL FIND A SOLUTION TOGETHER. TILL THEN- RELAX AND KNOW, THAT YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. EVERYBODY HAD DONE IT INSOME TIME IN THEIR LIFE. IT'S TOTALLY NORMAL.
2006-12-11 07:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think what you are feeling is normal and it sounds like you have a wonderful mother that you can talk to. Now you may want to just be honest with him and tell him that you did like it at first, but you have strong values and are just not ready for anything more and fear that he may expect something more from you. You may be surprised, he may feel bad as well, it is hard for these 17 year old boys though because they are possessed by their desires.
2006-12-11 07:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably feel dirty, like you did something wrong, its called regret. You regret acting the way you did with him. Do you really think he likes you? I mean do you think he really has feelings for you or is he as immature as most 17 yr old that I know. If you think he does care about you then talk to him, tell him that you fell aweful about what you did and that you wish you wouldnt have done it because you dont want him to get the wrong idea about you. Tell him that you're not that kind of girl and that you dont want him to see you as that kind of girl.
2006-12-11 06:59:44 · answer #3 · answered by MariChelita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk with him about how you feel.
2006-12-11 06:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
about what?if what you and he did bothers you so much explain it to him and don't do it anymore.
2006-12-11 06:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And how is this his fault??
2006-12-11 06:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋