I have recently broke up with my girlfriend who is the perfect girl any one would love to be with. The reason why I broke it off is because it is a long distance relationship and I felt like she deserves somone who can be there for her when I cant. But she cant understand that. Now I have found someone close to me and she is single and beautiful but she has cheated on her soon to be husband and she wants to hook up with me. So was I to hard on my ex? should I go out with this other chick?
2006-12-11 06:48:03 · 7 answers · asked by Bandit 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can understand where you're coming from. Long distance relationships can be hard. The question is : what do you mean when you say "long distance" ? How far away from each other do you live ?
If it's REALLY far, like different countries or states, I say it was the right decision. I guess it wasn't that easy but I think it was the right one. But if you still manage to see each other despite the distance, I think you could have stayed together. Maybe moving in together would be the best solution (getting married would have been a much better one - depends on how much you love her and how much you're ready for this step of course).
About this new woman you mentioned, I guess it depends on what she plans to do next. Is she even sorry she cheated ? Does she still love her soon to be husband ? Do you think she wants you for a real relationship or just a fling ? And does she intend to leave her soon to be husband anyway ?
I think that if she regrets being unfaithful to him and she's leaving him, you could hick up. But if she didn't care about him or what she did to him, maybe she's not the right one for you. She might do the same thing with you.
2006-12-11 06:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you love the woman you broke up with? Was it a mutual decision? If the long distance relationship was ok for you, and she also felt it was ok, why break up?
Whenever possible, these decisions should be mutual. Not one making a choice for the other. It sounds hollow when someone says "I'm doing this for you," if it's not what you want.
I'd be careful about the new girl. Once a cheater.......
2006-12-11 15:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are going from the fire to the frying pan.
Love is the only thing that really matters, if you care that much for the first one, why don't you move to be with her? A good compatible person is hard to find, and you may live to regret this decision. As for the woman who is cheating, that's too complicated to answer here.
2006-12-11 14:54:08 · answer #3 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You should not get back together with your ex - she deserves someone who know what they want and wants her. Soon she will realize this.
2. You should tell the new girl's fiance that she's cheating on him. Wouldn't you want someone to tell you if you were in his shoes?
2006-12-11 14:51:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is single then how can she cheat on her soon to be husband. sounds like you don't know what you want. i say stay with the one that loves you, not the one that has already cheated before, because she will do it again. after all, doesn't absence make the heart grow fonder?????
2006-12-11 14:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the real reason you left her, bc if you truely had the feelings needed you wouldnt dare leave her. You were looking for something else or better and I hope the person you find is worth it.
2006-12-11 14:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by visitor42353 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is engaged to be married and already cheating him?then stay as far as you can,she will do the same thing to you later.
2006-12-11 14:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by dra shelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋