My life is being twisted in so many directions I have no clue what to do anymore...my parents have pressured me into living at home so they will pay for my college and everything else. I have always wanted to go away and what I want to major in isnt available where I live. My parents are truly insufferable and drive me insane, especially my father who yells at me all the time for no reason. I have a wonderful boyfriend who happens to be away at college, the only reason he chose it was because I was supposed to go there as well. My family loves him and hopes we get married some day since our families are friends. But because of the distance I dont know if I can keep our relationship alive for four more years. Is it wrong for me to want to go away when my parents knew I had planned on leaving all along?
2006-12-11 06:46:01 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It sounds to me you're not lost. Not at all.
It's pretty clear that you know what you want and that you've known it for a while. You just need to grow some strength to talk to your parents.
My first recommendation would be to talk to them. Try to show them what they are doing, sometimes they don't realize the *gravity* of their actions. You can tell them that if they want you to stay here they might as well choose your major because you're not interested in any majors that the college they want you to go offers. That may wake them up a little.
If it doesn't work then, my second recommendation would be try to figure out a way to leave and be able to support yourself. Of course it's not as easy as it sounds but maybe if you're parents see your determination they will help you.
2006-12-11 07:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by mackenzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I graduated and started college I was only 17. I had always wanted to go to a school out of state but because of my age my parents threw a fit and I stayed at home and went to the college close by. I hated it and I was miserable. i ended up dropping out in my 2nd year. Later that year I got married and went to a big university that I chose and I got my degree. My parents finally admitted that they made a mistake making me go here but they were doing what they thought was best for me. Sit down and talk to your parents and explain to them that you know they want what is best for you but you are not happy and you want to go away to school like you had always planned. Chances are it might be they can't afford the other school and just didn't want to admit it so be prepared to step up and tell them you will get loans for what they can't afford.
2006-12-11 15:06:29 · answer #2 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they will always see you as there little girl and want to keep you to themselves away from the world but this needs to end your an adult now and eventually your going to leave if you need to go somewheres else to get a degree in what you want to do you need to go even if that means paying for your own college... alot of people pay for their own college cause not every1s parents have the money; im gonna have to pay for my college by myself so it can be done!
2006-12-11 14:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by Nightchild 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm in college to and I live at home, not so much b/c my parents really want me here, but b/c I know that if I move out i'll have to cook my own meals, pay my own bills, do my own laundry and stuff like that. Plus I can live at home and have the comforts of my own space, DirecTV, and lots of other stuff that a dorm or apartment cant offer me. But anyway to answer your question, I think that if you want to go to a place that actually offers your major and to be near your bf then your parents should understand that. I'd say that your major is probably your best shot at getting them to approve of your moving out. Just tell them that you cant fulfill your life-long dream of whatever it is that you want to be without going to whatever school it is that you want to go to. Just talk to them, consider the pros and cons of staying at home and moving away. They're your parents so they should naturally want whats best for you. Its convincing them that your way is what's best for you that's the trick.
Good Luck!
2006-12-11 15:05:49 · answer #4 · answered by packerswes4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, your a grown woman... make your own decisions... just tell them that this is what you wanna do and hope that they give you space and respect that as well... how can they say that they want happiness for you when they ain't letting you do what you wanna do... step up to the plate and tell them like it is... trust me... because in the end... they will be so proud of you, for making the choice/decision that you want to do in life... and girl... they will support you all the way... be a woman and stand up for your self... you ain't a child no more...
2006-12-11 19:14:40 · answer #5 · answered by MINA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is your life, and your future, not theirs. my mother did the same things to me when i was in highschool, and the only thing i could do was leave. it hasn't been easy, far from it... but i am happy. if you want to leave, then leave. if you're staying because they're paying for college, then that's a silly reason to waste your life. you can get a student loan and pay for college yourself. if what you want to do is offered somewhere else, then go - and if you love your boyfriend and he changed his life for you, then go be with him.
good luck, honey. it'll get better.
2006-12-11 14:51:09 · answer #6 · answered by Leasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you want to go away for school. I suggest that you do that.
2006-12-11 14:50:16 · answer #7 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋