How long after you've met a guy do you tell him you're a virgin without scaring them off? I'm 20 and not waiting for marriage or anything, just the right guy. Unfortunately, whenever I tend to bring it up, the guys run away :(
2006-12-11 06:37:57 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thats stupid that they run away...
thats like saying "ewww, this hamburger is fresh!"
i guess yall are right. guys are stupid!!!!!
2006-12-11 06:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 04:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For shame. Clearly you need help in picking a better caliber of guy. Any guy who can't prize and praise your decision is not worth your time and attention. You're fortunate they ran and didn't stay and try to pressure you. Keep working at it, be patient and find a guy who will treasure you and the great choice you've made.
And if you've waited this long and clearly value your worth and your life why not wait for marriage?
Always remember: if you can do better then you should.
2006-12-11 06:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by simm 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with the person before me. Don't tell him. It isn't really any of his business whether or not you have had sex before. If he rushes you into it, just tell him you are not ready. If he keeps forcing it on you, then he definately isn't for you.
My ex-girlfriend and I were in a relationship and she never told me she was a virgin (until after we had had sex), but I was willing to wait until she was ready. Granted, the relationship didn't work out in the end, but I don't feel "cheated" that she never told me she was a virgin. It's her own business.
2006-12-11 06:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by cory_rudy99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait until they bring up the subject of having sex. Usually it takes some time for things to move in that direction and by that time you will know if that is the right person for you to have sex with. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 06:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They run away because they get the impression they are not the guy. Prior to brining it up you need to lay the ground work so they'll not be so intimidated that they take off. At your age the "M" word has them taking flight. The "V" word NOT associated with the "M" word may get their curiosity up.
2006-12-11 06:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didnt tell my boyfriend till it was about to go to far with us. I said I needed to tell him something and told him. He was surpriesed some (I was 30) I told him I was waiting till I was married or til I know I met the right guy and even told him that I think he could be it and please give me some time. He was very nice. Turned out I gave in to him a month later.
2006-12-11 06:43:26 · answer #7 · answered by moo shell 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should tell a guy when you feel comfortable. If he doesn't respect that you're a virgin, then don't bother with them. It's about how you feel about yourself and whether a guy can respect that and your choice. Don't worry there's a guy out there for you. good luck
2006-12-11 06:42:11 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well this may seem not honest
but
dont tell him
he doesnt have to know what happend in the past
just worry about the future
and good luck for ur first time
2006-12-11 06:41:47 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them run, they were going to run anyway for whatever reason. Don't even think about it when the right guy comes along you'll know and you'll know what to do....
2006-12-11 06:59:15 · answer #10 · answered by Hiqutipie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think being fprward can be a good thing and for most guys the idea of waiting is not normal for there hormones are telling them differnt
2006-12-11 06:43:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋