Daughter often gets grandchildren to babysit every weekend and she is emotionallly and verbally abustive with her children? Can't go on any longer. Any comments or suggestions are appreciated.
2006-12-11 06:37:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The verbal abuse isn't healthy at all. I am a mother of two small children 2 and 3 and i dirnk on saturdays but i wait until my kids are asleep to have a few. I never talk down to them they know how much i love them and i never pawn them off on someone else so I can have agood time. She needs to go to parenting classes and learn where her priorties are. I mean I go to school three nights a week and am taking night classes so I don't have to leave them with strangers because their dad comes home then i go to school. I don't see anything wrong with drinking on saturday nights because i don't do it in front of them. She on the other hand has a problem. She doesn't drink for pleasure. she drinks to hide from her emotions and then takes it out on her kids. You need to get professional advice for thiss because if she is abusing mentaly or physicaly or whatever the need to be put in a safer enviroment.
2006-12-11 06:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well call CPS... they will look into what is going on and see wiether or not it is a good place for them..... I have a son who is a year old and i drink on saturdays but i make sure he is with my mother that way he is taken care of....
as for the verbal and mental abuse you really need to call and get those kids out of there because even if they act like they are alright now later on it will affect thier relationships and thier children because they will think that is how it is done,,,,,
Good Luck and I hope all turns out in a positive way for you and your family
2006-12-11 14:56:24 · answer #2 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your grandchildren if they dont like what there mother is doing if they dont then bring up the possibility of living with you if they say yes they present the question with the mother(preferably when shes not drunk) then tell her (only if you want) that she would still get to see her children (if she really cares) and talk and hang out (supervised or not) that would work better that telling her that your taking her kids to live with you then she could freak out and leave and you would never see them again so take this lightly and make sure you explain everything to the mother.
hope it works out for you wish you all the best
XjojoX
2006-12-11 14:47:16 · answer #3 · answered by xjojox_wht_up 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely need child protective services involved. You can't just say she's abusive on weekends. The first step CPS will take is to get your daughter some help with her drinking, and get some parenting classes.
2006-12-11 14:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you're worried about your grandkids, but you don't want to take your grand kids away from thier mother if ther'es anything you can do to help. try to help her. offer to babysit on the weekends so they're in good hands and not at some sitter. spend more time with your kid, just like you want your kid to do with her kids. Just because she's drinking on the weekends doesn't mean she's necessarily a bad parent. try taking her to AA meetings, and sit with her so she doesn't feel so alone.
if it's bad enough, bruises, cuts, signs of extreme phisical or emotional trauma, call social services, and tell them what is going on. But, try to help your daughter, not just take her kids away cuz she's being bad.....
2006-12-11 14:44:13 · answer #5 · answered by Leasha 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is a threat to the children you need to go to social services. Emotional abuse is no joke and could seriously affect the children. It is for them you need to go threw with this. Talk to a family lawyer they can help alot.
2006-12-11 14:41:49 · answer #6 · answered by I wanna dance naked in the rain! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can go to your local family and children services and let them what is going on and ask them "if possiable can you get the kids from her and take care of them yourself?" Good luck hun and God bless you.
2006-12-11 17:01:15 · answer #7 · answered by bambi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well go to social services but make sure no way for you to to work out so you dont burn a bridge
2006-12-11 14:56:40 · answer #8 · answered by theessenceofrose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋