My boyfriend is 20 years old and lives in the basement of his parents house. He works a full time job, pays his car payment on time every month and fufills all of his responsibilities at home, yet his parents treat him like he is a failure at life, all the while treating his younger brother like a king. He's tired of being second best, so my family has decided he can move in with us. Over the years my parents have welcomed numerous people into our home, unfortunately the last person who lived with us took total advantage of everything we did for her. I know my boyfriend will be grateful and I know it will be much easier living wth someone of the opposite sex, I would just like some advice from anyone who has ever lived with their boyfriend or girlfriend. Is it sort of like being married?
2006-12-11 06:22:28 · 12 answers · asked by Desiree 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We won't be sharing a room.
My room is on the 2nd floor of the house and he'll be staying in the attic.
He also works 12 hour shifts during the week, so we'll only see each other about as much as we do now.
2006-12-11 06:29:08 · update #1
Living with someone, to me, is the ultimate compatibility test. I mean if you can't live everyday with the one you love, what's the point? That's when you discover all the little habits, xute or not. You get to see your loved one in any kind of mood and have to learn to not get on each other's nerve. One thing i do suggest though, don't stop having both your own activities once you live together. Besides that, i love it, so many great moments... you can make some of the stupidest things fun... making food or just cleaning. It sure brings you closer to someone when you live with your loved one, and it's great (if you are compatible and in love ;) good luck!
p.s. i knew a guy who's parents started to respect and admire only about a year after he moved out and they saw how good he was doing. They were actually proud to see he was so reponsible... but they coulcn't see it before... sad but true.
2006-12-11 06:31:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have lived with my bf for almost 3 yrs already (Nov will be 3 yrs) & I'll tell you one thing, there are somethings you can't change. I love him with all my heart & am very happy with him but I realized that there's no way I will ever make him change his "habits". Both you & him will discover "bad" or "annoying" habits from each other & the only thing you can do is get used to it. You can sit there & ask him to do everything your way but trust me, it's not going to happen. I mean, he might pick up after himself every now & then as will you (change what he finds annoying) but after awhile you'll both go back to your habits b'cuz that's what both of you are used to. You can't change your man, if you can, congratulations!!! You'll learn something new about him everyday as he will learn something about you too. Regarding arguments, those will always be there, there is no such thing like a perfect relationship without an argument, and you will learn that all you argue about are stupid little things. Moving in with someone could be nerve wrecking, but take it one day at a time, have patience, and you'll see if this is what you both want. Just remember to communicate & tell each other about any "habits" that neither of you can stand. All I can say is Good Luck!!! & if you really love this guy, & he loves you, it will work out, no matter what anyone tells you!
2016-05-23 05:57:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I lived together for over 8 years before getting married, The first year was, she and I getting used to each other, learning about eachother, after that, it was like being married. We both had previously been married, so we knew.
Yes, it's like being married, however your situation might be different.
Are you going to be sharing a room with him? If so, then it could be sort of like being married. If you are not sharing a room, then it could seem like just a roomate or someone else who's around.
2006-12-11 06:27:23 · answer #3 · answered by jairman2004 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My BF and I have lived together for 2 years now and it is a lot like being married. You will have your conflicts, but will be forced to work them out since you live together. But before he does move in, consider how close you are to him and how long you've been together.....it is not a simple thing to get rid of someone if it doesn't work out. So make sure you really know him first!
2006-12-11 06:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it'll almost be like marriage but your still boyfriend and girlfriend.. There might be a possibility that you might see too much of him and it might start to bug.. what would happen if things didn't go thru with the both of you.. are you going to make him move or you two and just be good friends.. but it's possible to make it work.. your a good person for doing so though.. good luck
2006-12-11 08:26:00 · answer #5 · answered by crazgrss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is like being married, well in my situation, Although I want to get married but living with hiim drives me crazy... I feel more like a maid than anything
2006-12-11 06:25:11 · answer #6 · answered by missthang229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i am living common law right now, i believe more marriages are stronger if you lived with your spouse before marriage instead of waiting for all the negative surprises.
2006-12-11 06:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have lived with my bf for 2 going on 3 years it is like your married and sometimes you feel like your space is being intruded.
just remember you guys most likely will not always get along.
2006-12-11 06:27:27 · answer #8 · answered by Km 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have mixed feelings about it. It's kind of like being married, but without a shred of commitment.
2006-12-11 06:26:42 · answer #9 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is just like being married and I wish more people would do it before they take the plunge and get married.
2006-12-11 06:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋