A physic once told me that I would fall in love 4 times and my heart would be broken 4 times.Well...the 3rd and 4th came..and it was all in one day! I'm so confused.I'm engaged to this guy but he has a drinking problem and ignores me alot.So out of frustration I get into these other relationships.But since I'm with my fiance none of them of course work out and I just....I'm so confused.I don't know what I want anymore.I don't want to hurt my fiance and I don't want to cheat..but I also don't want to be alone.I have no place to go.Please help me.
2006-12-11 06:17:35 · 41 answers · asked by blondefolie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you need a new definition of love. You also should stop listening to physic's .
Sometimes we're on the hunt for something we think is right, but then out of nowhere you find something you didn't even know you could feel.
Start over, wipe the slate clean of all those broken pieces. I know it's easier said then done, but you must get through this in order to find true love.
By the way here is a poem I wrote about Cinderella & prince charming. this might help
CONNECTING WITH SOMEONE YOU BARELY KNOW.
IS THAT FATE OR COINSINDENCE?
CONNECTING WITH SOMEONE YOU‘VE KNOWN FOR YEARS
IS THAT COINSEDENCE OR DESTINY?
ARE WE SOULMATES?
OR DO WE MATE BECAUSE OF OUR SOULS?
THESE FIREWORKS PEOPLE KEEP TALKING ABOUT WHEN THEY KISS?
ARE THEY REAL?
AND IS THAT THE SAME AS THE SPARK WE’RE SUPPOSED TO FEEL
WHEN YOU MEET SOMEONE YOU’RE SUPPOSED TO BE WITH FOREVER?
THE WAY I SEE IT, IS THAT ROMANCE IS WAY OVER RATED.
AND WHO EXACTLY MAKES THESE RULES?
MEN? OR WOMEN?
OR BOTH?
WOMEN SPEND MOST OF THEIR LIVES PLANNING THIS SPECIAL WEDDING AND THE GREAT LIFE THEY ARE SUPPOSED TO HAVE
WHEN THEY MEET …
THE PERFECT MAN
WELL, IS THERE REALLY A PERFECT MAN?
OR DOES THE MAN JUST HAPPEN TO HAVE PERFECT TIMING?
I THINK HE IS JUST PERFECT FOR THE TIME BEING.
MOST MARRIAGES LIVE ON THIS CONCEPT OF HAPPILY EVER AFTER.
NOW CORRECT ME IF I AM WRONG,
BUT CINDERELLA & PRINCE CHARMING ARE NOT REAL.
SO WHAT DO WE BELIEVE IN?
THE REAL MEN MOSTLEY CONSISTS OF DIRTY SOCKS AND SPORTS.
DO WE SPEND THE REST OUR LIVES WAITING FOR WHAT WE HAVE BEEN TAUGHT TO WANT BY SOCIETY, AND THEN BE DISAPPOINTED IN THE END?
OR DO WE JUST DEAL WITH WHAT REALITY
SMACKS US IN THE FACE WITH?
LET’S BE HONEST, WE REALLY DON’T HAVE MUCH OF A CHOICE!
IT’S OK TO DREAM & FANTASIZE.
BUT WHEN YOU BASE YOU RELATIONSHIP
ON THOSE IDEAS THAT HAVE BEEN PLANTED IN YOUR MIND FOR CENTURIES, THEN OUR EXPECTATIONS WILL NEVER BE MET.
AND SOMEHOW WE WILL BE WAITING FOREVER FOR …NOTHING.
MOST OF US JUST STAY IN THE REALTIONSHIPS
BECAUSE THEY ARE SAFE & SECURE.
WHY CANT WE BE TAUGHT THAT THE SAFETY AND SECURITY
START WITH KNOWING THE REALITY OF LIFE & ROMANCE
AND THAT CINDERELLA & PRINCE CHARMING
DON’T EXIST!!!
2006-12-11 06:28:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take a time out. Go on a small trip alone maybe to Hawaii or any island for that matter. Think about everything going on in your life and take the time to contemplate the answers.
We all need guidance at times but you Know what you want, the last thing you need right now is advice from someone.
Listen to your heart and it will set you free.
By the way it is important that you do not run away from your problems, that is why I suggest a vacation it is a time out and you will answer questions while you are away.... In turn really you are actually working on your problem while you are enjoying yourself.
Good Luck
2006-12-11 06:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by halsru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first off, relaxation is needed here. You need to learn how to relax and never forget to take deep breaths.2nd, I think you need to work things out with your fiance. I think you should confront him and tell him how you really feel. Offer him classes that he can take to take control of his problem. I know when humans are frustrated, we do stupid things because we always act on emotion. But try to think in the future, see if you can live with this guy for the rest of your life. If he gets off the drinking problem, will he go back...and so on. So I think if you go down to the core of the problem, which is the dilemma between you and your fiance, and fix that I think it'll cause a domino effect and everything falls into place. I hope all works well and I wish you luck!
2006-12-11 06:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by Princess P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey from how it sounds you have two issues. One you are already cheating on him, second you are going to psychics. Take your life in your hands, don't depend on money hungry idiots to try and dictate your life or you are going to try and follow that false advice instead of living your life the way you want to. Why are you so afraid of bein alone? There seems to be some underlying issues that you need to cover before you get into any committed relationship.
Why is he still your fiance if you know he has these issues? Do you think he will change when you get married? I understand you don't want to be alonr so you are staying with someone who isn't really working out, but this frustration is caused by you not him because you don't have to be in this situation you are here because of your own fear.
2006-12-11 06:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The drinking could be more than just a problem in the long run it can cause severe health problems as well as birth defects in any future children you may have with your fiance. If you already see the problem and you are thinking of cheating then you may want to step back and take a time out to figure out what it is that you really want in life, sometimes it is easier to figure out what you don't want and go from there. As far as the physic, maybe you want to just leave it to fate.
2006-12-11 06:23:29 · answer #5 · answered by preshus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all make our own future by the things we decide to do in life. Dont live your life but what someone says is suppost to happen. Grab ahold of your life and decide what you want. Do you really want to live your life with an alcoholic who ignores you and makes you feel unloved??
Sounds like you need to find yourself before you commit to someone else and figure out what YOU want and who you are.
IF you really love this man sit down and talk with him tell him how your feeling. The best time is when he is sober let him know you love him but the drinking is ruining your relationship. This is not an easy situation to be in and if you marry him and your not happy now it will only get worse.
Remeber you have friends and family that care about you! You are Never alone, you maybe feeling like this now but it maybe necessary to cut your ties with this man if he is not willing to get some help for his addiction. good luck.
2006-12-11 06:28:21 · answer #6 · answered by hopefloats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I have yet to meet a "real" psychic. So ignore whatever you were told. As far as the fiance, time to dump him. He needs to get over his drinking problem before he is even close to ready for a committment. You can meet guys online or out in the world...either way, I doubt you'll be alone for long.
2006-12-11 06:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel sweetie!!i been there in your same shoes.and it's very hard.but if you ante happy were your now you won't be happy if your married eaither.it's hard when you have no place to go to also i know that.but what about a friends?remember you can't change someone they gotta want to change.try sitting your fiance down and telling him how you really feel and take it from there.love is a stronge thing and haveing you heart broken really does change ppl.but your heart can move on if you let it.remember it only makes you stronger.take some time for yourself and really sit down and think about what you want.best of luck to you!!
2006-12-11 06:30:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a good guy it sounds as if your going for all the wrong guys and give it some time learn about that other person before rushing into engagement
2006-12-11 06:20:24 · answer #9 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like if he has a drinking problem and that is hurting your relationship with him, you should probably delay your marriage a bit. Let him "fix" his problem, then you can work on your relationship. Best to just be honest with him and let him know that you are turned off by his actions, and that he needs time away from you to get things straight.
2006-12-11 06:22:08 · answer #10 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋