my bf has problems telling me his feelings . its only been since april his devorce has been final. and we got to gether in june. he wont tell me his feelings and wont show me verry much affection anymore. what is this? am i just a girl along for the ride. or am i the one he loves.? he tells me he loves me but i have doubts as if he really means it. i asked him yesterday if he really ment it and i got no reply. So know what do i do?
2006-12-11 06:13:31 · 9 answers · asked by aleisha21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's probably needing more time after the marriage. It's a shame (for him) to be tied down already after going through something so heart-wrenching. Give him space and let him come to you when he's had more time, if he wants.
2006-12-11 06:15:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mama R 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, cut him some slack. Not all people who just got out of a marriage is ready for another major relationship and it takes time to get used to the idea of losing yourself in another again after a heart-break. And I'm sorry to say, but he should have taken some time alone to rediscover himself. ALL people who are divorced should do that for a minimum of 6 months and sometimes more depending on who you are. I took 2 years before I plunged into the dating scene again. And I was barely ready then. Give him space, or you'll push him away. He got rid of one nagging wife, he sure doesn't need another and the more you nag and ***** and bother him about his feelings, the least likely you two will last.
2006-12-11 06:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably has alot of emotions from the previous relationship as I am sure most of them are not good healthy emotions. The only thing I can suggest you do is follow your heart. He may be scared to love again, open up again. Those things happen and those feelings are normal after such a break-up. Just try to figure out if where you stand in the relationship is where you want to be and if it is a healthy situation for you. Soul searching will give you alot of answers. Good Luck!! :)
2006-12-11 06:19:45 · answer #3 · answered by Kail 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you got no reply then, obviously he is trying to avoid the question. No matter what you should be asking him the questions, not us, he is the only one who can give you the answer that you need. You just need to sit him down and have a talk tell him what is on your mind and ask him for answers. If he doesn't want to talk then maybe you shouldn't be with him, but if her truly cares, then there is no way that he shouldn't want to talk. You do need to talk to him as soon as possible because you don't want to be the rebound girl, make sure that it is in person. Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-11 06:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by kikos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this cause I hate these kind of answers, but maybe you're the rebound girl.
2006-12-11 06:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of him,if he can't say if he loves you after 6 months then i wouldn't hold out much hope.
2006-12-11 06:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by Del's wife 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You were his rebound, do not take it personally, it happens, he doesn't have the balls to tell you and he is scared of being alone. cut your ties and move on.
2006-12-11 06:17:00 · answer #7 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
may be he use u to forget his ex
so try 2 make sure dat he loves u or leave him
2006-12-11 06:16:35 · answer #8 · answered by dahaka 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sit down and talk it out as it could be because of his rescent divorce
2006-12-11 06:15:23 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋