my gf checked her email on my computer, and forgot to sign out so i looked at it and found she had sent an email to some guy she use to talk to and he had sent one back. The letter included baby and a bunch of other stuff which makes it seem like she running around behind my back. I don't want to confront her about it cause i found it out like that. So i want to know what i can do?
2006-12-11 06:10:36 · 22 answers · asked by Kelvin H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ASK HER ABOUT IT! OR BLUFF! TELL HER THAT YOU SAW HER. TELL HER THAT SOMEONE CALLED YOU ON THE PHONE AND TOLD YOU. OR SEND HER AN EMAIL FROM A DIFFERENT ACCOUNT WARNING HER THAT HER BOYFRIEND(YOU)KNOWS EVERYTHING. OR TELL HER: I KNOW EVERYTHING!
THE BLUFFING USUALLY WORKS THE BEST COS HER CONSCIENCE IS NOT CLEAR!
2006-12-11 06:21:17 · answer #1 · answered by Stella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you should have called her the minute you found it. It was her mistake by leaving her email account open. You would be better off asking her instead of running around hiding behind every bush waiting for something to happen. How childness does that sound? If she says yes i have been cheating then get out and never go back but if she says no then give her a second chance. But if you know you can't trust her anymore then it is best to leave. You will only cause heartache to her and yourself.
2006-12-11 14:14:34 · answer #2 · answered by tjnw79 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which email included 'baby'? Your girlfriend's or the one the guy sent back? If it was the guy then he's probably a player trying to pick your girlfriend up.
You can follow her around, and eventually get charged for stalking her. Or you could ask her straight out that you've heard things.
Anyway, what will you do if she is running around? It is her fault, not yours. But I would stay away from her email from now on and consider your own actions. Good luck.
2006-12-11 14:12:10 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her that she had forgot to sign out her e-mail on your computer and thought it was your e-mail system and ask her about it? What weird is that if she wanted to hide it she would have not have used your computer or wanted to get caught to make you jealous or something. However, She has not be forthright with you on this particular matter about the e-mail with an guy who you aren't aware of. It might be a old friend who had a baby or a relative. The guy might just be only a friend, So don't jump conclusions. Ask if you could meet this guy and see how she reacts. Pay attention to verbal and body language including facial expression which will expose a liar. It might be just a harmless e-mail, and again don't jump conclusions and be calm about it.
2006-12-11 14:26:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you should tell her the truth. Forget the games. She's the one who forgot to sign out of her email. This cheater girl should be a bit more sly if she's really cheating. You would think- if she was in fact cheating, then she would make sure she had signed out. Maybe it's really nothing? ..She had a history with the dude and it's hard to let go. (I know that it's hard to get over the past, especially if you were the one that got dumped.)
Let her know that you feel bad about invading her personal space, but you were quite concerned after finding this info, and say that you are here for her if she wants to talk about her feelings. Tell her that you really care about her and you want to be in a relationship built on trust and strong communications. If she doesn't want that, then move on. Don't waist time on games. You don't want to see her with another guy anyway, get out before it's too late and you torture yourself!
2006-12-11 14:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by Lil Lulu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the only thing that I can tell you is to ask her and go from there. If she is cheating and she lies you will be able to tell most folks who lie wont look you in the eye. Maybe you can check her cell and home phone bills. Also, maybe follow her to see where she is going. Open honesty is the best thing unless you are afraid shes not and dont want to start a fight. Or say you are acting funny are you happy or met someone else? Hope this helps.
2006-12-11 14:14:31 · answer #6 · answered by colee97 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a program called spectorsoft. It takes a picture every few seconds of the frame on the computer. You can go back and see everything she was writing and reading. Then you will have the proof to confront her.
2006-12-11 14:13:21 · answer #7 · answered by Farah G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You snooped and found out something that could affect your relationship BUT you dont want to confront because it makes you look wrong? WHY DOES IT MATTER??? Confront her and tell her how you came about the
information ....the fact of the matter is she STILL is cheating.
2006-12-11 14:13:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on how successful you were in the dating game before you met this girl, you may wish to consider ignoring the problem.
If you confront her and break up the relationship, you might not be able to find another girl to fill the void she will leave in you life if she leaves.
2006-12-11 14:18:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't confront her. Get her to talk about that sort of stuff. For example cheating, other boyfriends etc. If it does not work try following her when she dresses extra special, and she's not carrying or telling you were she's going.
2006-12-11 14:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by SweetPoison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Thats a bummer and im sorry to hear about it. But I think you should just tell her a truth, her lies plus your lies equal lots and lots of more lies to cover up other lies and eventually it will end in a big blowout that wont be pretty.
Just sit down with her and tell her that she left her email signed in and curiosity got the best of you when you saw his name in her inbox. Then say that you want the truth from her.
2006-12-11 14:14:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋