I'm 21,... I work, go to school.. I have no boyfriend,... I hardly go out,... I want to get married and have a kid,... I want a daughter! Oh I do, I do.
Should I adopt one,.. while I'm waiting for marriage haha ...and I don't even have a boyfriend,... what can I do?? ...I want to be a mommy,... and YES ....I know the responsibilities!!!
2006-12-11 06:02:57 · 22 answers · asked by Lizzeth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It doesn't matter what you want or what you think would be cute and fun. What matters is providing a baby with a mother and a father, emotional and financial security, and stable, secure home. You're not able to provide those things.
2006-12-11 06:06:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am freshly divorced and found a sperm donor- he did not want to use a condom and I wanted another baby, this one on the way is #3 :).
he is a dead beat, but that is what I wanted, no fight for custody, and I am already raising two on my own, one more doesn't add too much.
Finding a man to deal with 3 kids is going to be hard, but I want children more than a man, so I know how you are feeling. You are not the only one tho!
P.S. I am 23 right now. Had first when I was 19 and married, second when I was 20 and married- Left the hubby, kept the kids- now college full time also
2006-12-11 06:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a beautiful 21 year old woman that needs to experience life a bit more before you think about bringing a child into your life. Finish school, find a good job, pay off your education and find a good man to be the father. Provide your child the best possible life, not just because you want to have someone in your life that you own.
2006-12-11 06:21:10 · answer #3 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is nice to be a mom I am sure. I would also love to be a father. However I understand that having a baby is a huge responsibility, where both parents should be involved in the up bringing of that child. If you have a baby now with no father, that child is going to grow up with some real issues, she is going to want to find out who her daddy is, and probably end up blaming you in the end. I think you should finish school first, and get settled in your career, meet a decent guy and build your future together. Find that balance you need and don't rush into having children now, you will be making a huge mistake. Please listen to a old fool!
2006-12-11 06:16:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there two ways to get a little baby not guaranteed if it's a boy or girl one way the other way you can just about choose the sex of the child. But , by the time your able to adopt you may be kinda old. The best way is find you a boyfriend and do whatever rocks your boat and moves your groove. I'm not saying out of wedlock but you know sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. one girl told me I don't know how true it is that her brother in law furnished the sperm and she caught it in a turkey baster and nine months her baby arrived.
2006-12-11 06:13:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have everything going on for you right now but a child takes a big hunk of that away your still only 21 I would give it some time I had my first child only one at 22 and it's hard and we are both here for her mother and father I would seriously think about it its a big move
2006-12-11 06:07:50 · answer #6 · answered by crrousey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 21... give it time. Get school done first. Then wait til you get married. Kids need both a mother and a father if at all possible, so wait.
2006-12-11 06:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand. i felt the same way when i was 21. i say give yourself a few more years, like til you are 25, to give yourself time to find someone and have a child of your own. it would be much easier on you if there was a father involved and also better for the child. just hang in there and don't put so much pressure on yourself, you are still young. good luck.
2006-12-11 06:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are too young to have a child and even if you adopted you would not get the child because of your age. Live life and then worry about the parenting stuff later.
2006-12-11 06:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are very beautiful I would definetly marry you. I would wait till you are with someone to have a child together that way he or she would have the love and support of two parents
2006-12-11 06:11:41 · answer #10 · answered by j g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋