call it old fashiond, but I do not like giving BJ's I have only done it twice and I did not like it. but men, could you be with a girl that gave you everything but that. I do not get it. in my time. guys did not even want that. now it is all the rage. but back on the subject if you have a girl that:
was hot to death
cook her *** off
loyal
can count how many men she has been with on one hand
no kids
educated
if you were looking for a long term thing. wouldnt that be enough?
2006-12-11 06:02:12 · 22 answers · asked by cinnamon43212002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't love someone because of what we do sexually,I love them because of the way they make me feel when I'm with them, the way they make me feel when I'm without them. What we do together is a culmination of what we both want to do. People these days don't know the difference between Passion and Heat. And the ones who boast most are the ones who do it least end up happy if they get it once a month in their marriage. You take Passion with you, you'll make Love all day long and cook all night.
You sound Pretty much like the Perfect Mate....
2006-12-11 06:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by Hiqutipie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not kid yourself. Observe carefully. Most women will say something to the point of "not a bid deal", "find a real man".
Most men will tell you that this is a big deal and part of a loving relationship.
Tell him the truth so he can decide if he till desires you. Do not be surprised if he moves on but you will both be better off.
Most men do have a strong desire for this and if you are not 100% honest about how you feel you may marry a guy that will figure this out and then get it elsewhere.
BJs are very important indeed.
2006-12-11 14:11:10 · answer #2 · answered by onlineseeker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is "Yes, there's plenty of guys for you!"
OK, you know a lot of girls don't actually like putting it in the mouth. That's cool for most guys. I suggest you actively work on your hand job skills. Really work on it. If you can do this well, the BJ will not make any difference and you will keep him happy ALL THE TIME! Go join a website called 'tug jobs' for one month and watch a video every day. Any guy will love you for it.
2006-12-11 14:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very intimate question to ask about a marriage. In "your time" talking too explicitly about the bedroom was also frowned on.
From experience there are good decent guys who will love a girl without her needing to be kinky. A smart girl, loving wife, okay cook, and the right guy do just fine.
Most modern guys are so selfish they dont realize that that particular act is the most vile to women. If they dont care about how their woman feels, and put the womans feelings above their own, then they arent a man worthy of you. You deserve to be respected and admired. You deserve for your marriage bed to be a place of rest, of comfort, of safety, and where you are respected.
2006-12-11 14:09:42 · answer #4 · answered by Curly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question, Jane. I can definitely see how this is a problem. As a guy, it'd be too much to give up if I knew my partner would not do oral sex on me. You need to remember that guys are more physically motivated, it's one of the many differences between the two sexes. Do you think that in time if you became closer to a guy, you would be more willing to pleasure him with oral sex? That would depend upon if you feel he was worth the sacrifice, right? I wish you luck.
2006-12-11 14:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by davemanroth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right man will accept you for who you are and never try to force you to do anything that you don't want to.
But you may want to reconsider your stance on BJs. If you've only tried it twice, that's not very many times to form an opinion. In this situation, practice really does make perfect.
2006-12-11 14:06:04 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you said "in my time"...when was that? Bl0wjobs have been going on for centuries...this isn't something new or a fad...for me, as a chick, it's mandatory for a guy to be willing to go down on me...I simply wouldn't have a satisfying sex life with someone who wouldn't do that...
I would think that some guys would feel similar about bjs, others won't care...not everyone likes the same things, thankfully...or the world would be a boring place...
2006-12-11 14:07:03 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sexual preferences should always be considered. There are actually guys out there who care how you feel and would find another way to satisfy themselves if you don't like doing something. These would be unselfish guys. I am sure some still exist.
2006-12-11 14:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry girl but men that respect that are a rare breed.I haven't met one yet and I'm in my 30's (early 30's)
2006-12-11 14:08:04 · answer #9 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be yourself. if he only cares about the bj's he isn't the right one for you. you should care about what is inside a persons heart not what you can do for them sexually. if he really cares about you , he will understand
2006-12-11 14:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by Tonya M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋