ok, so there's this guy in my school and we really haven't been friends or anything, but this year we got really really close and kind of became best friends and it's fun to hang out with him and all that, but i have been taking him only as a male friend. BUT today he sent me this huge romantic email (and he's a writer), where he actually says that he loves me. And i really don't know what to do, cause i don't think i'll mangae to develop any romantic feeling towards him but i don't want to loose my best friend. what should i do???
2006-12-11 05:58:07 · 8 answers · asked by masha 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him you love him like a brother.
That's actually advice I got from my dad when I was in High School and in the same situation, and even if it was a bit uncomfortable, it worked.
Any rejection will hurt his feelings, but you can't put yourself in a position where you are stringing him along. He went out on a limb for you, so be as nice as possible but firm when you say you don't want a romanic relationship with him. Don't tell him maybe if you don't think there ever will be one, because it will honestly just hurt him more when nothing ever happens.
2006-12-11 06:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by Jes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult problem many male female freinds have. It is normal for a person to become attracted to their opposite sex friend. In fact, for me at least, the more I get to know a woman, the more attractive she becomes to me. I think the best way to deal with this is to be totally up front about it with him. It may seem cruel, but its better than leaving him hanging on for something that may never happen. I feel bad for this guy in a way, as I am in a similar predicament right now . Let him know he is special to you as a friend (if he realy is), but that you are not "romantically" into him.
2006-12-11 14:04:36 · answer #2 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can remember that, at once, there was something alike that happened to my friend. Still now, she's in love. If i was you, I would try to understand and know everything about him because if now he comes to you and express his feeling for you after it was just a friendship, there must be something that instigates him, and this... this emotion that he feels for you could be real. Do not yet show him that you attracted about it, instead pretend to be lovely and need to pondering on it as you'll seek to recognize him...!
2006-12-13 07:23:03 · answer #3 · answered by Jhonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not good with this one but here goes, if you don;t want to be in a relationship with(cause u don't want to lose him as a best friend) him try talking to him, but at the same time try not to loose your best friend over it (and trust me its not easy losing a best friend over a relationship)
2006-12-11 14:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by jovene_cunningham2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look i think that you should really be honest and tell him that u kant see him as more than a friend and i think that as long as ur honest he kant be saying that u mislead him and kant throw nothing in ur face latter.
2006-12-11 14:02:31 · answer #5 · answered by mrs.garcia16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be honest. If he cannot respect you and your feelings then he is not a true friend! good luck
2006-12-11 14:00:56 · answer #6 · answered by britt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl dont date your friends---EVER. unless you dont mind losing the friendship when the relationship ends...and it will end. For me...please dont do it.
2006-12-11 14:00:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him. tell him how you feel.
2006-12-11 14:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋