my husband used to be good looking but he has completly let him self go.Hes put on so much weight it has become a health and safety issue to even think about s*ex never mind doing it.Ive had enough and im meeting his female cousin tonight for a bit of no strings fun.Im not really bothered where i get s*ex from and i dont see why i should feel guilty,afterall its him that has allowed himself to turn into a human pig.I cant leave him as i couldnt afford to go to bingo 3 times a week on the money i earn.Should i tell him though?I mean he loves me so much that he,d probably put up with it anyway
2006-12-11 05:57:18 · 50 answers · asked by Nellynoo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
SUE.....yawn!!!
2006-12-11 06:06:59 · update #1
Honey how could you go on line and air our business? My cousin, that ***** has no right to agree to this, I ain't fat! Just haven't been down to the gym for a couple of weeks is all.
if you put a little more effort into s-e-x i might have shifted some by now. Cheeky cow!
2006-12-11 06:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by ANTJOHN 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How is your shape? Make some changes in both your eating habits by buying healthy foods so you won't have to tell him he's gotten fat. Little adjustments can make a big difference and doesn't hurt any ones feelings. Just say we need to start getting more health conscience and lets try some of this and that. hat way you aren't pointing a finger at anyone about being over weight. And as for you going out and getting it from anyone that will give it to you... I think you know what I am saying. If you can't leave him because of the money, then you need to ask yourself if you are just using this man or if you really love him? If you love him then you would be sticking by him no matter what. What if you were the one gaining weight and he as much as he loves you like you said he does, then he would still love you over weight. It's not just the bod our brains fall in love with. Keep your man happy and he'll see the changes he needs to make.
2006-12-11 07:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, well, well..... aren't you that absolute epitome of loveliness and beauty! And over the years, you don't expect a few wrinkles, grey hair, or anything do you?
Normal people do change and the "for better or for worse" in the vows should cover that.... along with "forsaking all others".... but that apparently didn't mean anything to you.
If you were going to whore around during the marriage, you should have told him that before you married him. He did have a right to know.
Yes.... tell him you plan to have cheap sex with other people and might end up with an STD, and ask him if he's willing to take care of you if you get AIDS from your whoring around.
Or, you can be a loving wife and find out ways to help him get in better shape FOR HIS HEALTH, and lovingly encourage him to do that while being a loving, supportive wife.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-11 06:04:34 · answer #3 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes in relationships we tend to get very comfortable. We tend to let ourselves go a bit just because of the everyday life of a married couple. If your husband loves you he will understand where you are coming from. But, calling him names like a pig are not going to help the situation. You need to be honest with him and tell him how you feel about it without making him feel too bad. If you love him then work it out. If you dont then leave him. You can make the extra money somehow to still do the things you love. Life does not end after divorce. Good Luck!!
2006-12-11 06:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kail 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe while you were at bingo 3 nites a week he got bored and started eating to fill the time. Take the fella for a walk instead, it'll do you both good, and save you some money at the same time. If you've never told him how you feel then don't be so harsh on him, give him a chance to improve .
2006-12-11 06:01:47 · answer #5 · answered by Skanky McSkankypants 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is, do YOU even love him? It really sounds like you don't, and to be honest, it sounds like you only liked him in the first place because of his looks and money. It seems like his looks and money were the only thing holding your marriage together.
I don't think it's fair, or even nice, to have sex with whomever you want without even talking to him about the real issue first--his weight. Yes, it may be his fault for "letting himself go," but that doesn't justify you going to have sex with other strangers. Remember? You're married. Why don't you both sign up for a gym membership or something and try to work out together? That way you can spend some time together, and he can get in shape.
And last thing: sure he may love you alot and "put up" with you sleeping around. But that doesn't mean that it won't hurt him. So I guess it all comes back to the question: do you love him? If you did, you wouldn't want to hurt him like you're about to do.
2006-12-11 06:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by ccccc12345 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This just displays the cheap side of your morals, why turn to other men when you can just discuss your problems with your husband? I think in a way, you encouraged him to eat the junk food which has lead him to his weight problem due to your inability to cook at home. Now you only care for his money, this is quite sickening, if only he knew what was going on in your diabolic mind, he would seek ways to untangle himself from your weird grip. But it's only one day and I think I know you and I will take a gamble and tell this guy whom I think is your husband, and your promiscuity and bingo days will be numbered. Pray that he turns out to be the wrong guy.
2006-12-11 06:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by marizani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me...he already knows! I'm sure he can tell by the way you talk and treat him. I can see why you're put off, but the way you talk about him sounds like you think he WANTS to be fat! NOBODY WANTS THAT!
Maybe he's got emotional issues (could be addicted to food!...seriously). The way you talk about him sounds pretty nasty ("Human pig"?!)...almost NO sympathy! I hope you don't say these things to HIM! It will just make him worse.
He needs HELP and you're only thinking about BINGO???! Also, it sounds like you are looking around for sex ("I don't care where I get it").
Either LEAVE him, or help him and stop thinking so much about YOURSELF! But staying in a relationship with someone who disgusts you is good for NOBODY.
2006-12-11 06:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Gwynneth Of Olwen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, since we are being real, you are ignorant! I mean how would you feel if he did that to you? I am sure you aren’t the best looking thing on this earth and could use more than a few good groomings in the facial or body area! If you don’t want him leave but don’t come on here complaining like you are going to make some friends! Good Christmas gift for you would be herpes!
2006-12-11 06:02:58 · answer #9 · answered by Tri-trippin-Nelle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You wont leave someone because you couldnt afford to go to bingo without him??
Look, if you love him as little as that and he loves you as much as you says he does then he is bound to get hurt.
You should tell him that your having an affair, but you really should of told him before that you werent happy with the way he looks.
2006-12-11 06:49:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋