I've never dated or anything. I didn't to to prom, I've never had a kiss. I've had many crushes on girls over the years but never once did a thing about it. Is it too late for me? am I a loser? what to do what to do....
2006-12-11 05:51:10 · 28 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dude, I know what you're going through. I'm 21 and I'm ALMOST in the same situation -- except I'm a dating expert. How does one get to be a dating expert without dating? Lots of observation and communication with people who have been, that's how. I didn't go to prom either. The best advice I can give you is to stop being so afraid of women. Just ask them out! And in the meantime, read the columns archived here:
http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove
His advice is funny and usually very accurate. He also has an internet radio show . . . look it up. Have a nice day!
2006-12-11 06:06:39 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it, you are not a loser and its not too late for you. I'm 18, never been kissed or went to prom, so your not the only one. You'll meet some nice girl and it will work out. Dont try to rush things just because, When you find a girl you like, all you have to do is work up the courage to ask her out, the worst thing that will happen is she says no. There is though the possibility that she will say yes!
2006-12-11 13:56:16 · answer #2 · answered by cowgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres nothing wrong with you. You may either have a strong fear of rejection, a fear of public speaking/meeting new people, resistance to being vulnerable enough to let a woman know you are interested in her or just not very social. The drive to have sex usually overcomes any shyness from alot of guys and some guys just have to practice the basics.
1) Making small talk with random women, young and old. Hot and not-so-hot. Busy and absolutely bored. Holding a conversation is the first key to meeting women. If you practice doing this for a few months it will get your confidence level up.
2) Make yourself into someone a woman wants to talk to and look at. You can be the average guy, pudgy, acne and a bad dresser but you can take baby steps on some of those and add a lot of new found confidence you can have a chance with 70% of the women on the planet. Buy some new clothes, if you have to.. Get what the manneqin has on at the clothing store. Buy a tried and true cologne like Cool Water, Gravity or any CK One/CKBe. Cool Water being the crowd favorite. Apply sparingly at the pulse points on your neck and wrist. Its better not to put enough on than to put too much.
3) Read a dating publication like http://www.doubleyourdating.com or http://www.sosuave.com to get a feel for getting your "inner" self together to be a successful dater. Women hate players but they love men who know how to conduct themselves and give an aura of emotional & financial independence with a slight sense of aloofness like he does not care if this womanor that one approves of him. Difference between a player and a ladies man? Maturity.
2006-12-11 14:20:23 · answer #3 · answered by Magnus01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey bro, you aren't a loser - just a late starter! But I hope that you've got the grades to justify your behavior ;)
You know, its perfectly natural to concentrate on your work now and enjoy the fruits of success later. But balance is definitely more preferable. If you could be yourself, no falsities...just 100% you, then I'm sure that someone will be interested in you. Believe me, girls like genuine guys. If they don't then they deserve the jocks that they're with! Don't worry - wait for a girl who'll understand you and accept you for what you are. There's no point in changing yourself for somebody else. But hey - if the change's for the better - then why not?
2006-12-11 13:59:56 · answer #4 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are to shy! The next time you see a girl that you like or something start up a conversation, but don't act nerves, us girls can sense that and it is a turn off! If you have a girl you kind of like at work or at college then start up a converstion with her! Like maybe start talking about your work or the same class you could be taking, then maybe she will get chatty and take it from there! If you have guy friends that are not shy then try going to a club there are always girls there looking for nice guys! Good Luck Don't Be Shy!
2006-12-11 13:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Sweet Pea*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude ur not a loser and it's not too late. U just need to work on a few things and i'm sure ur chance will come. Ur not alone in this world and theres someone out there for everyone. U just gotta keep looking and never give up. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 13:53:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jayde 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Its not too late. Next time you meet a nice girl that you like, ask her out on a date face to face. You can take her out to dinner and movie or find a nice place to take her that would be special (like a place that looks out over the whole city). Take time to get to know her. Don't rush into anything. If you do take her out make sure you pay and get the door for her. Remember to smile! Best of luck with the ladies, I'm sure you'll do fine.
2006-12-11 13:57:19 · answer #7 · answered by Lexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To start off with your not a loser and no theres nothing wrong with you. So what if you haven't had a girlfriend in your entire life its not the end of the world. But why don't you try to start a conversation with a girl that you like a simply "hi" and little conversation can do a lot all but you actually got to go for it.
2006-12-11 13:55:11 · answer #8 · answered by PiNkHeArTs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't lost. You need to get some courage and talk to some women before you get weird though. Just do it. Act like someone else if it helps. Expect to be rejected. Fortunately, most people are reasonably mature by around 20 so defeat shouldn't be too crushing. Maybe some older woman would like to show you the ropes?
2006-12-11 13:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by spastic i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a loser. I never dated either because I was too shy and too afraid of rejection. If you like a girl just talk to her. Become friends first. My husband and I were friends for a few months before we ever dated. It helps if your friends first that way you know if you are compatible. Good luck and God Bless!
2006-12-11 13:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by cranky_gut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋