my daughter is 10 months at night she wakes up and i give her a bottle and she went back to sleep but about a week ago she went and stayed with my mom for 3 weeks and know she came back and when she wakes up i at night i have to rock her before she will go back to sleep any suggestions what i can do so i wont have to rock her back to sleep
2006-12-11 05:50:58 · 10 answers · asked by jessica 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She's gotten used to grandma and now she has to get used to you again. I know the sleepiness on your part and the crying on her part is going to drive you crazy for a while, but she'll get used to your old routine soon enough.
My son is 4 and I still have to rock him to sleep when he's with me. But I honestly don't mind.
2006-12-11 05:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Lemar J 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With children especially when they are young, it is all about routine, I have a 2 year old son, and even when I am not home, I can tell you what he is doing. If there routine gets broken, it causes all hell to break loose!! Your daughter's routine got broken, so she adapted to a new one. Your mother probably rocked her to sleep, which isn't a bad thing, so that is now what she is used to. If you don't want to rock her anymore, than don't do it. You will have to deal with screaming and crying for a few nights but she will get over it and start a new routine in which she feels comfortable. The worst thing you can do, as a parent in general, is give any sort of positive attention to things they shouldn't be doing or things you don't want them to do. You got to remember that there whole world is you, it's all they know, so if you laugh when they swear or do something bad, they assume everyone will and that usually leads to behavioral problems. Everything I read told me to be the "enforcer" untill they are about 4 years old, and that will lead them to the right descions as they get older and have more independence. Sometimes you feel like you are being mean, but your their parent, not thier best friend so get used to it. I know she is only 10months old but this is when they develope their personality so you gotta instill the right stuff or you are in for problems as they get older.
2006-12-11 06:11:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart!!! Three weeks is a long time for a little one to be away from mom. I have five kids and totally understand where you are coming from. Who knows the real reason why she is now doing this. Your mom could have spoiled her, but she may have been missing you so is doing this, but irregardless of the reason, you really want to know what to do now. I would try putting her in bed and rubbing her back and either talking soothingly or singing her a lullaby.
Also, you could play a quiet music CD for her. There are excellent ones out there with lullabies and children's music. You could also try rocking her for say 20 minutes and slowly make the time shorter and shorter.
2006-12-11 06:03:02 · answer #3 · answered by Becky 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I think I your Mom is probably responsible for this.
Try feeding baby some pablum before bed and a bottle.. Maybe he wont even wake up in the night if hes not hungry.
If this doesnt work try to keep him in the crib and give him bottle then stay with him for a few minutes while he has the bottlle. Dont get him up. Just stand by the crib and maybe rub his head or belly. Good Luck!!!
2006-12-11 05:58:11 · answer #4 · answered by susanne l 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Grandparents are wonderful at spoling their grandchildren and then being able to send them home.
Each night wait a bit longer before you begin the rocking and shorten the time of the rocking... Eventually, she will become "readjusted" to her old habit. It may take a few weeks. She become accomustomed to the closeness and now must adjust to being alone... try a cd with soothing noises or one of those wonderful crib mobiles with light music....
2006-12-11 06:05:19 · answer #5 · answered by Edin 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know your mother spoiled her, you may have to bring her crib into your room until she get used to sleeping at night again. I used a rocking bassinet for my baby, so I never picked her up at night but I would reach over and rock the bassinet
2006-12-11 05:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off let your mom know next time that you don't like rocking her to sleep! Second of all..I would let her cry it out for a while to break her of the habbit! She's 10 months old so it's ok to let her cry it out for 15 minutes...if that doesn't work put something in her crib like a remote controlled crib toy that you can turn on from the hall way..just so she learns to put herself back to sleep! GOOD LUCK
2006-12-11 05:54:49 · answer #7 · answered by mommyof372802 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well what i would do is try to ease her back into how you put her to sleep. as mean as this sounds, just sit in the room with her and let her cry till she goes back to bed. give her a bottle if you think that's what she's crying for, but don't rock her as much. comfort her then pt her back
2006-12-11 06:06:59 · answer #8 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would just rock her back to sleep. She probably missed you while she was away from you and wants to be close to you. Enjoy this time with her. They grow up so fast.
2006-12-11 05:53:24 · answer #9 · answered by Mlly 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this may sound cruel but have you ever considered just leaving her to cry until she falls asleep?
Apparently, it helps to teach children independance.
I dunno.
2006-12-11 05:54:15 · answer #10 · answered by colombianqt_247 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋