im 18 never had a boyfriend, dont have many guy friends.. i dont know why ive never had a bf, ive been asked but ive just not found the right guy.. i dont see a great need in having a bf, cause all my friends with them constantly moan about how much effort they are, but sometimes i would like that companionship.. the fact i get totally shy and tongue tied around guys doesnt help either.. and no im not a lesbian im attracted to guys lol
what should i do? i like my independence but i dont want to be a spinster, grow old and be eaten by alsations!!!!
serious answers plz, sarcasm wont help the matter
2006-12-11 05:50:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart, you're ONLY 18!! You have so much ahead of you in life and frankly I'm proud that you have such a strong independent stance and outlook. You have a level of maturity that a lot of people my age don't even have. Keep up that confidence and stay true to yourself and your strong values. You will meet the right guy. Truth be told you're going to meet a lot of the wrong guy but that's ok, you have to weed out the bad ones to find the right one. You're going to go through so many experiences in your life that being shy around a guy is not going to be your biggest hurdle. Don't stress, stay as strong as you are, and don't worry, you're not going to be a spinster :)
Good luck girlie!
2006-12-11 05:55:13 · answer #1 · answered by INS24106 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm . . . I know how that feels, and trust me when I say the situation is not uncommon at all. It's even more common for guys. I'm 21, and I only have one female friend and a few acquaintances. I don't think any of them are interested in me as more than a friend. I know several single guys too . . . they're not that bad looking, but girls don't give them the time of day. You should probably start asking guys out. That is bound to help the situation. If you need more help than that, email me and I'll try to give more advice. (My lack of success with women is mostly due to a lack of resources and effort than anything else.) Have a nice day!
2006-12-11 05:57:33 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well -- you say you've been asked out but you haven't found the right guy...right there is your problem.... who says you have to find the right guy on the first date?!?! Just go out once in a while on a date when you're asked. That's how you start working it...then you'll either go on a second and third and fourth date -- or you won't. At least you've started somewhere. As you get to know these guys who've asked you out, you'll get a chance to meet some of their friends - who you might have more in common with. Just get out there and have fun. No one is saying jump right into a committment. Good Luck!
2006-12-11 05:56:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ducky S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may or may not be failing him. He may just not be aroused by oral sex, even though he says it feels good. His brain is saying, I'm not interested. Most beginners in oral sex with a man think it's all about sucking, but it's not. It's about making the mouth feel like a vagina and about making sure the glans is sufficiently stimulated. Licking the tip doesn't do it. Deep-throat is mainly for porno flicks. Think of your mouth as a hand or fist enclosing the glans, moving up and down. The closer he gets to an ejaculation, the faster you go, but not so fast as to make him uncomfortable. Ask him to tell you if what you're doing is working, and try different things.
2016-05-23 05:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 18. Chances of being a spinster are slim to none. Be patient, it'll happen. In the mean time get involved in some extracurricular activities.
2006-12-11 05:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy do not have to be bf all the time - if you are having trouble finding one or wanting to have one then start slow by being friends first then go from there. It will not only help with the shyness it will also give you the opportunity to get to know that person before anything starts to get serious.
2006-12-11 05:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by FeeLnUFeeLnMe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, I think you should hang around with guys more... Talk to them and try not to be shy and if possible try to let your friends help you with that problem... Being in a relationship is not that bad it's just that if you're really into someone, if you're really attatched that would be pretty hard to handle if a break up happens... You don't need to be materialistic, all you do is give your L.O.V.E that's all...
2006-12-11 05:57:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dark Valentine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friends are complaining about how much work a guy is, it means they haven't found the right one either. Just be patient, at least you'll recognise him when you meet him instead of trying to change a guy into what you want.
2006-12-11 05:55:17 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you are asked out, say yes. Every guy does not have to be Mister Right to date him. It's part of the learning process..
2006-12-11 05:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could get a double date with a friend and her boyfriend and see if you like it. You know, no pressure, just a movie or something.
2006-12-11 05:54:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋