I have been talking to a guy since about 3 months. About a month ago he started to show real interest in me. We were going pretty well until 2 weeks ago - he started to slow down. He used to come online everyday and tell me that he is going to call me that day - but he wouldnt. I am getting a feeling that he wants me to crave for him each day. Is that what guys usually do to get the attention?
Now I am not really sure what I should do. The minute he calls me - I usually end up picking up the call without thinking for a second and I am always online in front of the comp so i dont want to miss talking to him. Do you think ignorance will help him at this point? Any other suggestions?
2006-12-11 05:26:18 · 14 answers · asked by Tina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are too available. Men like the chase. It will make you more desirable. Here is what to do:
Stop being on the computer so often, because when he goes online he can see that you are there, so he knows what your doing-there is no mystery-no need to miss you-or think about you like: I wonder what Sneha is doing?
Also stop picking up ALL his phone calls, let some go to voice mail- you want him to feel privilege to be talking to you. he'll appreciate talking to you more and make the best of the conversation if he had to work for it a little.
Also end most of the conversations before he does!- This is big- most people wait till the conversation is completely dead and there is silence-then the guy says ok I'll talk to you later ok-
You need to be having a really good conversation and after the conversation is getting under way say "oh I have to go, Talk to you soon bye" this will have him thinking about you even after you've hung up, also it will have him feeling like " I can't wait to talk to her again"
Good Luck this should really help-unless he's just not that into you, so if it doesn't work after a while, and he keeps acting semi- interested then you need to move on to a guy that will be very interested in you and value your time together and conversation!!!
2006-12-11 05:41:56 · answer #1 · answered by moks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is very simple...stop playing the coy little elemnetary school games and ask the guy to poop or get off the pot! Write him straight up and ask him if he digs ya. I know everyone tries to act all cool, like they dont like someone unless they say it first...but be honest and just ask him. if he does really like you, he'lll say it. If he's a wimp and gets scared, you don't want that kind of guy anyway. Write something like "Hey, I was wondering about you last night after we wrote each other. Are you interested in maybe spending some time together beyond just this computer stuff? I would love to maybe hang out sometime and maybe get something to eat or just hang out and watch a movie" be straight...just ask him
2006-12-11 05:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, this fellow is nervous and embarrassed, and since he isn't sure how you feel about him, isn't sure how to progress with you. If you really like him, and feel this way, it wouldn't hurt if next time you spoke, you said something like, "I just want to be clear about something; I really like you, and if this relationship starts to get more serious, I think that could be a good thing." That gives him a clear signal that it's OK to pursue the relationship further, and hopefully, will give you a break from having to try to be available for him all the time.
2006-12-11 05:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him play games with you, which is what he's doing. He may not even be aware of it.
Call him out: Say "Do you know how many times you have promised to call me and then didn't? I demand more respect than that. If you say you are going to call, I will happily wait for you. But if you don't call again, I'm done with you."
He will either shape up or take off. Either way....YOU WIN!
2006-12-11 05:32:35 · answer #4 · answered by DJ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Games are not the way to begin a relationship. Keep it straight and not too heavy, but ask for honest answers. Better to find out now than to realize later that he was just playing.
2006-12-11 05:48:14 · answer #5 · answered by funwithu_007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds serious,waiting for a call.He might feel that the two of you are moving to fast or he got scared.Have a little patience,live a little life.You don't have to take the call all the time...
2006-12-11 05:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys manipulate, but you are definitely obsessing. My advice is to lay back and focus on other guys and other interests.
If he is truly interested in you, he'll be back. If not, at least you won't be obsessing.
2006-12-11 05:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't be so available to him. Disinterest drives them crazy. Much better to play hard to get; what they have to work for they appreciate more.
2006-12-11 05:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by jeffpsd 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't b so available guys like the chase once they know they have u the fun is over, let him want u for awhile
2006-12-11 05:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by trina f 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't sound like much of a guy.
2006-12-11 05:28:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋