Previously I had asked what to tell my children (step) when they ask why their mother doesn't want them, thank you for your answers. Over the last year and a half, the children have come home to us with various cuts and bruises always attributed to an "accident" by their mother. We've called CYFD before but never had enough "evidence" for a full investigation. These last three weeks they've come home with two chipped teeth, one molar falling out (4 year old) and this past Thursday with 4 inch long burns. Finally, the authorities are taking this seriously and their mother is forbidden to make contact with the children or us until the investigation is over. I'm asking for everyone's prayers that these two beautiful little girls will remain in our safe care. They are both scared to return to their mother's house, they love her but they fear her. I truely believe that everyone's prayers have helped us this far and I thank you all.
2006-12-11 05:19:23 · 18 answers · asked by christibearb 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
The girls, daddy and I had a meeting at a safe house yesterday in which our oldest was alot more open with the interviewer and admitted she did not want to go back to their mother's house out of fear of what would happen to her and her little sister. We had the police, the DA and the safe house interviewer there. The only orginization that didn't show was CYFD because they already determined the case UNFOUNDED! Everyone was apalled, they didn't bother to show. Now we will contact our state rep. Gloria Vaughn for help. For now the police and the DA agree that our case has merit and will continue to order their mother to have no contact. We are awaiting the results from forensics which will clinch the case. I wish I could pick you all for best answer, I will leave it to a vote. Thank you for all your prayers!
2006-12-12 04:30:10 · update #1
I will say a prayer, this gave me chills- I didn't see your last question, but geeze... what kind of mother could do something like that to her children? They are lucky to have you! I hope for the best, and I hope the mother gets jail time and some help as well!
2006-12-11 05:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by m930 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What Martha S. said rocks. My prayers are with you and the girls. I am in a similar situation, a survivor of domestic violence. My daughter had to go live with her abusive alcoholic father three years ago. It makes me angry that he was able to get me investigated by family services with lies, then when something serious happens to my daughter family services tells me there is nothing they can do about the father who beats her on a regular basis and admits it to the psychologist my daughter sees. She has come to visit me with bruises from beatings with a belt, knots on her head from being hit, stories about how her dad has passed out from drinking and won't wake up and I can't get the man investigated. BUT WHATEVER YOU DO follow through with an emergency custody hearing that Martha suggested. This can protect the girls and you. You are a good concerned parent, keep up the good work. Most of all hang in there. I am truly sorry that your girls had to be hurt for the authorities to take the situation seriously.
2006-12-11 07:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by Dana H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh! Those poor girls! What a shame that this is what it took to finally get CYFD to intervene. I will never be able to understand how anyone can harm an innocent baby/child, let alone, their own mother. My prayers are with you and those two beautiful little girls. Thank goodness they have you to look after them.
2006-12-11 08:15:31 · answer #3 · answered by Julie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad I am, and my eyes are filling up just typing this.... Isn't it a tragedy that it has to get to physical harm BEFORE the authorities will step in and at least conduct an investigation.... My heart goes out to you, and I will keep those children in my prayers.....and I will pray that she loses all contact privileges with them permanently, until the day she comes to grips with the reality of what she has done so that she can deal with it. May God Bless you and your family.....
2006-12-11 05:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stories like this make me so angry. All it should take is one phone call and an investigation should be done these are innocent children we are talking about not an adult who is capable of protecting themself. they are very fortunate to have a dad and step-mom that care as much as you do and I can tell you will do all you have to to keep them safe and make sure they know they are loved. get these babies into some counceling so they learn what happened was not their fault and that their mother was just sick. Also I know you have the authorities involved but now that they are in your custody I would get an attorney and file an emergency custody hearing. God Bless you will all be in our prayers and keep us all posted.
2006-12-11 06:29:25 · answer #5 · answered by Martha S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will say many prayers for you and the children especially. I hope you get to keep them and raise them in a safe productive environment. Keep fighting for those children! People need to be aware that children are not punching bags.
You are good and brave people to step in. I hope all the prayers are answered.
Also, see if the children can talk to the attorney or jugde about their experience. But be supportive. It will be a difficult road for all involved. God Bless
2006-12-11 05:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by shellie t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is the first I am hearing of your story! I am so sorry to hear about all of this going on in your life. I will certainly keep you in my thoughts and prayers especially during the holiday season. I can tell you are going to be a great mother to these sweet girls. You already care so much about them. Good luck with everything!
2006-12-11 05:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prayers are with you as I am a foster mother and can't wait for the day to adopt the wonderful little boy who is in my life! You are such a wonderful person for helping out these little miracles and I hope they realize how lucky they actually are...even in the situation that they have been forced into!
2006-12-11 05:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mom to Foster Children 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prayers are with you and yours.
Good luck raising the girls, you do right by them and you will be blessed the rest of your life because good daughters never leave their mothers behind. Even when they leave home and start their own families, you will always be the one they mirror their lives after, and they will do right by their children.
2006-12-11 05:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Peach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May God's grace and mercy be upon you and your little girls. Jesus will never leave you. While I'm at it, I will say a prayer for the children's mother too.
2006-12-11 06:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Kelly45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋