Ok so I found out I was pregnant back in October with a boy, and my husbands sister has always been in compition with me to have the first boy, because we do not have any in our family we have all girls. She told me when I was pregnant with my daughter I best not have a boy, its not my right to have the first boy. I don’t really know why expect that she evil. But here’s the thing. About a month and a half later she said she was pregnant I thought oh cool. Not really thinking anything about it because her baby was due well a month after mine. Well I guess she was on clomid and instead taking it like the dr said 50millgrams she saved up one month and took 100. This annoys me. And come to find out she is having triplets. Her dr is saying they will not let her go past the first part of June. This is what really gets me, she calls me up and says well I’m going to have MY babies before you and looks like most likely I’ll have a boy. So I will have the first boy and you wont. Also what annoys me is the fast that it seems everyone on my hubbies side of the family has seem to forgotten that we are having a baby too. Now its all her and her triplets,I don’t know why this bothers me so much??
2006-12-11 05:09:59 · 10 answers · asked by laicic 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
LMAO you guys are too funny!! you have amde me laugh all the way through this!! and yes i know that this all sounds selfish but thats how i feel.she just erks me so bad, it comes from other crap she has pulled on me and well yahoo doesnt ahve enough time or spance to explaine that one!! lol. anyways she has 2 girls now and i love those girls more than anything, i would NEVER take it out on them because their mom is a phyco!!! this just means shes going from 2 kids to 5. i feel bad for the kids shes not a good time manager. anyways i guess this kinda helps you understand, shes a VERY HEAVY smoker and weights 285, i am worried about those babaies because i dont wish baby problems on anyone!! and she acts like none of this is hurting those babies!! GRRR
2006-12-11 07:27:18 · update #1
She took DOUBLE her dose of Clomid?! She's insane, and I feel for those kids!! I also have some sympathy for you! It's totally human of you to be bugged by this, so don't feel guilty! Remember, you're even more human than normal b/c you're PREGNANT!! Let me tell you a little story...
I have one SIL that's hubby's sister. She's a sweetheart, and I love her to pieces. We have kids 3 months apart, and they love to play together (as much as 3 kids under 1 can "play", right?). I have another SIL (married to hubby's brother) that's got 5 kids and one on the way, and she's crazy. Not just a little left of level...I mean to the point where social services could come and take that whole family away b/c she won't get herself treatment kinda crazy! They were pregnant about 5 years ago and due less than a month apart. Crazy SIL would call sane SIL and brag about this, that, and the other thing and sane SIL would just let it go in one ear and out the other for the most part. This was sane SIL's first child, and when we were at her baby shower crazy SIL went into a tizzy about how SHE didn't get a baby shower and all that crap, like it was everyone ELSE'S fault that she got knocked up at 16 and had a shotgun wedding! So of course we needed to throw HER a baby shower too. She was basically in competition w/ sane SIL the WHOLE time! The boys were born 2 weeks apart, and when it was time to bless sane SIL's baby, the crazy SIL and her brood came out (they live 2 hours away) JUST so everyone could see HER cute baby too! At the blessing crazy SIL flat out said to sane SIL "people think my baby's cuter!" My poor sane SIL had to go through her WHOLE *first* pregnancy in an imagined competition w/ her crazy SIL. Then she kinda got screwed w/ the second pregnancy b/c I was carrying twins (though I only took the PRESCRIBED dose of Clomid!!). Heh, but I'm on good terms w/ her and we don't compete! Anyway, I'm telling you all this to let you know that there is one in EVERY family!!
The rough part of it is YOU have to cope and YOU have to take care of you and your baby, 'cause no one else will do it for you! You have to be the bigger person and let the childish games stop with YOU! Let your SIL being the hosebeast and attention whore that she is...in the end it won't be about who had the boy first, right? If she starts calling you to taunt you, just keep being nice to her. It's gonna suck hardcore, I know, but it'll be better off for you. Have some non-related support that you can call and vent to (and laugh at the whole situation, b/c as previous posters have said, she'll NEVER find a babysitter!!). Another thing you can do if you have caller ID...if you get a call from your SIL, don't pick up. Just make yourself busy enough that you can't be reached :) Your SIL will hate the piss out of that when she's on bedrest in another 2 weeks!
Last of all, TRY TRY TRY not to take it out on those kids! Just b/c their mother was a dumbass doesn't mean you have to be ever resentful of her children. It's not THEIR fault! Have a good relationship w/ them, spoil them as much as you can, and thank your LUCKY stars that you only have to take ONE baby home!
2006-12-11 05:43:05 · answer #1 · answered by luvablelds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a mature, responsible woman.
Honey, in some states, pregnancy is a platform for declairing deminished capacity. You are already a better person than I in this instance.
Here is what I would do, I would compleatly ignore the situation and love your babies. Period. The family is being silly. Make up for their lack of attention with love! Never let your kiddo know the "competiton" that was had.
Trust me, she will have triplets, that is punishment enough!!! One baby is a lot of work, three is suicide.
It bothers you because your the momma! Your baby, pregnancy, and fledgeling family has been slited by an immature woman!!! You are right to be angry...but let it go. I promise, the next few years will definatly prove much more stressless than hers!
2006-12-11 05:32:03 · answer #2 · answered by Thera 9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think both of you are being childish. You need to focus on your own pregnancy, so what if the family is obsessing over her triplets and not your pregnancy. She is the one that is going to be tied down with 3 children of the same age. Not you. If anything, laugh about it! Show her that it doesn't bother you one bit that she is having the first boy. Tell her how much you are going to pity her lack of freedom when she has a hard time finding a sitter. Just shrug it off. After all, it is YOUR first son that you should be thinking about. Good luck.
2006-12-11 05:51:18 · answer #3 · answered by peyton31602 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are babies, not handbags or new jeans you're talking about. It's too bad you feel your S-I-L is getting more attention for her triplets - she sounds insecure. Take the high road - she can't compete with you if you don't compete back.
Really, who CARES in this day and age who has the first boy? Your child with have three little cousins the same age to play with, that's pretty nifty.
2006-12-11 05:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by eli_star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your sister in law seems really shallow and immature.
Pregnancy isn't a race, it's serious business and she is going to have to take responsibility for three children while you are awaiting one.
It doesn't matter who has the first boy.
Technically, she cheated.
There are health risks involved with fertility drugs, does she know this?
Don't worry about her, she's the one who should be worrying with three new additions on the way.
Hope everything goes well with your pregnancy, you seem to be the only intelligent one of this situation.
Good luck.
2006-12-11 05:44:48 · answer #5 · answered by Desiree 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry when her triplets are born she is going to be permanently at home taking care of her house apes and you will be sitting pretty.
PS Her belly is going to look like dog jowls after
2006-12-11 05:18:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like a insecure, spoiled, got to keep ahead of the 'jones' type of person. Don't worry about her, just pamper yourself and have a nice healthy baby.
ps...when it comes to babysitting time...let me see 3 screaming kids or 1???? I would pick one!
2006-12-11 05:22:54 · answer #7 · answered by PK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister in law is crazy. She is an attention whore and with that being said, I don't think you should sweat it. If your husband's family isn't giving you the recognition that you deserve, screw them...you still have your side of the family and all your friends!!!!
2006-12-12 02:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Amber K. ~MarineWife~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this all sounds very childish on both of your parts. just be happy for her, the more kids the better. at any rate, your first concern should be about your baby ,so don't stress out over such pettiness. take care!
2006-12-11 05:21:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
hehehe she might have the first boy but you'll have the nice shape after, ever see those women who's bellys look like old tree trunks all saggy and yuk? thats what stretching your luck too far does... like having 3 at once instead one. smile nicely after at her and say nice kids.... too bad about your looks. and walk away :)
2006-12-11 05:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋