2006-12-11 05:08:31 · 14 answers · asked by confusedbrowngirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Did you regret the breakup with the first person? Did you try and get back with them?
After how long did you realize your mistake?
2006-12-11 05:11:27 · update #1
No, but I have ended a relationship and within a week or so hooked up with someone I had been attracted to. It was alright at the beginning, but I quickly learned that all people come with baggage and different habits, etc. Every relationship eventually has to involve reality and everyday life, so both people involved have to give & work at the relationship. Also, I found that everyone has different ways of doing things & you'll never agree with someone all the time. That's what makes us all unique...our feelings, beliefs and emotions. So, I guess all in all it worked out for the best because I learned alot. The other girl wasn't around more than a year & it didn't work out...we couldn't blend our differences in a way that it would work, or else the effort wasn't worth it. I think everyone needs time to be alone after a big breakup. Going straight into another relationship rarely works for long, because you take your problems with you. Taking time to be alone in between relationships gives us time to really look at what went wrong, what we learned, how we've changed & what we need to do for ourselves to be better people. We have to learn to find inner happiness first, then we can share ourselves with someone else.
2006-12-11 05:22:34 · answer #1 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I actually left my husband - who had started drinking rampantly for the last year of our marriage - for a man I worked with. That was in 1992 and we're still together and very happy. He also left his wife - we're not proud of the way we met, but we are happy that we found each other. We're the best thing to happen to each other...ever! After we first started seeing each other, we both decided we'd try to make our respective marriages work, but within a week, we knew it wasn't the right decision, so we decided to get a place together and divorce our spouses. I've not regretted it once, and neither has he. There's no sense staying with someone if you're not happy. It doesn't do you or the person any good. I did remain friends with my ex-husband (until he met someone else and she was too jealous for him to maintain a friendship with me) but my I remain friends with my man's ex-wife as does he, as well as their son (who was 10 at the time we met and is now 24).
Hope this helps!
2006-12-11 05:18:49 · answer #2 · answered by deelberger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I did huge mistake! he left me about 6 month's later and then I had no one..... you can't take my experiences and apply them to you. I you truly love the new person you need to sit down and research which one you truly want to be with . Get 2 notebooks and write all the good things and bad about the one your with now. And the same with the one you want to be with. This will take a while . You shouldn't be with either one of them for a little while( month or so to make the decisions they are really important so take your time. ) you may find out your happier alone for a while.
2006-12-11 05:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by lyger1970 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I was with a guy for 4 years when I left him for another. Now I've been with the new guy for 4 years and I am having second thoughts. I am kind of seeing someone else too. Four years must be my limit.
2006-12-11 05:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by chunkymunky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, part of it is the security of not wanting to be alone it worked out for a while then realized I needed to do a little soul searching about myself to know someone else does not have to be a part of my life to feel complete I think if you want to be with someone else break off current relationship and give it some time, you may find what you are looking for is not in someone else but inside yourself
2006-12-11 05:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by undeniable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just according to the person you left and the one your going with, cause you know sometimes the grass looks greener on the other side, but really its after you get it's withered and yellow.
2006-12-11 05:13:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i have left my boyfriend for another guy and it was the worst mistake i ever made but overall ii am kinda glad i did it but it turns out that the guy i had left for didnt even like me but whatever.
2006-12-11 05:16:35 · answer #7 · answered by amber 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and it was the biggest mistake of my life.
2006-12-11 05:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by Pache 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought about it, but then came to my senses.. like the other person said- the grass is not always greener on the other side.
2006-12-11 05:13:09 · answer #9 · answered by aaron 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
worked out great with the new old was the problem
2006-12-11 05:11:11 · answer #10 · answered by Te-Te 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋