This is a complicated story, so I will try my best in my limited characters. My Uncle and his wife raised his wife's little sister because their mother died. Growing up, this girl was always called my cousin. She was never told who her father was, because they said b/c her mother died without telling anyone. Well, she did tell someone, my mother. This girl's father is actually my father's father... so in essence, she's my aunt, not my cousin. My mom won't tell her b/c she was sworn to secrecy by my aunt/cousin's mother before she died. Why my mother trusted me with this secret is beyond me but I'm always telling her she's got to tell my aunt/cousin!!! I think it's wrong, but I know if I were to tell it would stir up so much confusion in the family. However my aunt/cousin has confided in me many times that she wants to nkow who her father is. BTW my grandfather, her father is in his 80's. What's the best way to resolve this?!
2006-12-11 05:07:56 · 4 answers · asked by Princesa Morenita 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your mother to tell her or you will. (give her a deadline.) At the end of the deadline just tell her yourself. Your cousin/aunt wants the truth and deserves it. She should have a chance to know this man is her father before he dies and being in his 80s that could happen soon. (she could get her questions answered or at least speak to him about it.)
If she finds all of this out when it is too late to ever talk to him about it she may never forgive anyone invovled.
2006-12-11 05:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by artimis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My situation is a little different, but my father and his twin brother, were adopted at birth. Both of my grandparents went to their grave keeping the secret of who the real family were. My father died in 1978 not knowing. Up until 5 years ago, none of us knew.
My uncle finally traced it down, and it turned out that all of our family lived within the same county. Luckily for us, none of us had entered into a relationship with an unknown family member. Sometimes knowing who your real family is, can turn out to be a necessity. Not only for moral, or medical reasons, but for peace of mind.
2006-12-11 14:41:36 · answer #2 · answered by jerrycarr99029 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Artimis.
This secret is a poison in your family. It's not your secret. There is no reason you need to keep drinking this poison for the sake of those unable to discuss the truth in a way that doesn't have to be shameful, or hurtful with others.
2006-12-11 13:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by Daniel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were trusted with a secret, you should keep it.
2006-12-11 13:25:10 · answer #4 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋