I met through a mutal friend a goreous girl, after couple weeks of phone calls, we went out on a date. After dinner, we got to my place and we talked. And then all of sudden, she kissed me and gave me () r a l S e ><.
She was really good at it and I enjoyed it for about 2 - 3 minutes.
I didn't get off but it was still cool.
Then we laid there and fell asleep in each other's arms.
Question : Is she a s!ut?
I do have feelings for her but now I feel she's cheap cuz she did that on the first date. I feel the need to chase her is gone. Not sure if I should call her for second date.
What is she willing to do on our next date...I'm not sure if I'm ready for sex. Feel like we are moving so fast.
By the way, we both are 29 years old and want to date for settling down. We both are not playing the field.
2006-12-11 05:05:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
your not 29 what r u doing lying?
2006-12-11 05:14:32 · answer #1 · answered by donald k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH she's probably not what you think she is just because of that! In my past, I don't think I ever made it a habit to do "that" to a guy after our first date...but I did do it to my current boyfriend and we've been together for months now. Things just happen in the moment and when you feel extremely attracted to someone. I don't feel like I am trampy, either. It was worth it; he stuck around!!! :P
And PS: I am an adult and so is he...things are different when you're 31 versus 15 or 16 years old. You said you are both 29. This should not be an issue.
2006-12-11 13:25:03 · answer #2 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it. She's an adult. Your an adult. It does not make her a slut if she did that. It just means she is comfortable with her sexuality. These days, a woman can be just as forward as a man. Women are in more powerful jobs, have stronger ideas and express them when wanted. You should be happy that she is a strong woman and takes charge of a situation. If you are not ready for sex, let her know that up front. You do not want her to try and you turn her down. It will make her feel as if your not interested in her in any way. We girls still have all of our emotions along with the independance. Anyway, I hope this helped.
2006-12-11 13:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by floridagirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, that is some start. Man, I would be scared at a situation like that & have avoided many instances and followed a moral instinct-which might have lost me some pleasure.
But the pleasure might have turned tragic--even with the beautiful girls I dated. Its good you have some reservations, it could benefit you. If you have moral principles based on the Bible or what-ever-follow them. Women as well as men are at times desperate for pleasure, any form--it is something that is out of wack and rampant with disease.,both, mental, emotional, and physically. If you do not know where this girl has been, and itsounds like you don't --watch out!
After 38 yrs. of marriage , my wife & I know how to give great pleasure and receive it--it comes along with affection, trust, cherishing, loyalty--it does not work if its simply mechanical.
As for being a slut--it seems as she has the makings of one, but I do not have the right to judge her--If you might really like her--talk the matter out, find out where she is coming from. One needs to be reasonable as how much chasing one needs to do.
Let her know, you were somewhat shocked with your first date, and ask her what might have been going on in her thinking, maybe she is taken by you, be honest and let the chips fall.
2006-12-11 13:32:30 · answer #4 · answered by THA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she is a slut,she could of just wanted to show you how interested she was in you.Who knows what she's been through and the type of guys she's been with before?Were you only interested in her cause of the looks?If there was something more then take her out again and have a talk.Honesty is always the best policy...
2006-12-11 13:13:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK for starters she is nasty for doing that and secondly on the first date what do you think was you the first or the tenth person she done this to remember a man wants a girl he has to chase she has to be a mystery to him and that's not being a woman. just take it slow. and be careful.
2006-12-11 13:12:28 · answer #6 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For a 29 year old, I must say I was surprised hearing you use the word slu*t to describe someone who has just given you a blo*w job. You sound 15. Get over your little labels then perhaps you'd actually get an orgasm next time.
2006-12-11 13:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Craiova 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It sounds to me like she may be a little bit of a slut...just because she would open up and do that on the first date. Most respectful girls will wait before they get to know someone to do something like that....if you are really looking for a long term relationship, she is not the one to have it with..
2006-12-11 13:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be happy she did that. If you are going to hold it against her, then next time you are out on a date with someone, don't do it the first time. But you'd probably find something else wrong with her.
2006-12-11 13:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
29 and you're asking this question? I'm thinking more like 14 and making up a story.
2006-12-11 13:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Pache 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋