Here's the deal..I've been off again on again with my boyfried for 3 years, due to the fact that he is in the Navy. It has been a hard adjustment, but we are working on things. Anyway, the longest we went being not together was about 3 months, during that time I had sex with one of my guy friends, I started to really like him, but he just wanted to be friends w/benefits...so it stayed that way...well now my ex and I are getting back together and trying to make it work again, and my friend w/benefits all of a sudden wants a relationship with me!!! I don't know what the hell to do......this is so complicated..
2006-12-11 04:57:43 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay....April G, I am NOT married!! geez, I am 20 years old...no need to preach to me about it...and I did not cheat on my boyfriend, we were separated, and I have told him about it and he understands..
2006-12-11 05:15:39 · update #1
you should go for the Navy guy... he waited long enough for you..even though he was far from you...
work with him..
about your w/benifit friend,
if he did like you why didi he just want it to be w/b friend before ???
human always like that,
when something had gone...
then you'll appericiate....*sigh*
2006-12-11 05:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah is does sound complicated. This is what i suggest you need to sit down and really think about which one is gonna be the best for you in the long run. You obviously know both guys well so you should be able to figure out who is gonna be better for you to be with. You might like the friend but if you love the other guy and know it'll be better choose him, but in the long run you might need something different that your friend can give you
2006-12-11 13:03:02 · answer #2 · answered by K@t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't so complicated, you just made it complicated. the friend with benefits only wants a "relationship" now because he doesn't want you to hook back up with your old boyfriend. it will only work with your on again off again if you tell him about the "friend". he probably will not take it well at all, but who knows. but you have to be honest. and don't cheat!!!
2006-12-11 13:07:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't complicated at all -- it is very simple, VERY.
You have no respect for your vows or your marriage. In case you didn't know, marriage is admiration, respect, passion, and trust, with a whole lot of lovies, and consideration tossed in. Betrayal is the deal-buster in a marriage. You have betrayed your marriage by sharing your body and soul with another man.(If he did this to you, wouldn't it just make your skin crawl? Would you ever want him to touch you again???? Make love to you again??? Well, he won't want to with you, hon, if he finds out....) And if/when he finds out, sweetie the trust will be gone, and with it, everything else erodes, either quickly, or slowly as it all sinks in as to what you really did..... So, if/when he finds out, you no longer have a marriage.
If you choose to stay married to your husband, for sure don't confess this, that would be your second mistake. You wouldn't really expect him to put his arms around you, tell you it is okay, and forgive you, would you? How would you feel if he did this to you? If you tell him be prepared for him to vomit in your face, as you would in his if the roles were reversed.
Your choice? End your affair, and shut the hell up. Or divorce your husband. To repair a betrayal is at least a two year effort with no guarantees. It would be easier to start over....few marriages survive a betrayal... it is easier to unscramble an egg!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-11 13:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pretty rude of your "friend" to wait until you are trying to work on your relationship with your b/f- Sounds like a guy thing about since some one else has her, I want her, but once he gets you, it will be different.
Of course, some times when a relationship goes off and on, there is a reason it keeps going cold, and distance might not be your only problem.
2006-12-11 13:02:01 · answer #5 · answered by allaboutme_333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other guy who only wanted to be friends with benefits with you is jealous now that your ex from the navy is getting back together with you and to me it looks like he only wants to be with you when he can't have you or there is competition involved, don't go for him he's probably a jerk to only want to be FWB's in the first place.
2006-12-11 13:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Katie H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should go out with the one you want and stop fcuking around with the other. Have a nice day!
2006-12-11 13:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yer FWB buddy broke the rules of his deal with you so u must tell him that he is out of the picture
2006-12-11 13:07:28 · answer #8 · answered by Jim G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋