the single life?

Question

i don't know if its just me or not.. maybe i haven't had enough relationships to actually be a judge of this.. but it seems to me that some people can't be single.. they are in a relationship.. leave that one and jump right into the next one.. and so on and so..

they havent' had much time to be "single" and to learn more about themselves...

do you enjoy the single life.. ? what are you favorite parts about it..? what do you hate? why do you suppose people have to have a never ending stream of relationships without learning more about themselves?

Answer 1

I have noticed that very thing in many of my friends as well! I know at least 4 people who always have to be in a relationship and maybe have a week or two of being "single" before they're exclusively dating someone else again. Those people all have one thing in common, and that is the fact that they are very insecure about themselves, so much so that they are that dependent on another person all of the time.

I personally love being single, though being in a relationship is great. I think you hit the nail on the head when you said that being single helps you learn more about who you are. I like to take time after any relationship has come to an end, time to just readjust and get back into the swing of things. So I think both being in a realtionship and being single are great!

Answer 2

I love been sinlge, simplly coz I feel independent. I love doing what I like, I am not been pressured. I can check out any girl I want, I can pick up any girl I want. There isn't a part that I like been single. I can eat what I want, I can go out when I want, my apt is like trash, no one cares. hahahahaha What is not to like??

On the other side, many of my friends can't live sinlge lives. I didn't see them single for a week. I think it has to do with the way they were raised. I think they feel insecured when they are single.

But on my part, I finish college and move on with my life coz I was single. I was been able to focus on my career and move on. If I was with someone, I wouldn't have done that. So stay single and learn about ur self. Get in the position, secure ur future and then find significant other.

Answer 3

the single life gets a bad connotation. being single can be the best thing that happens to you. especially after being in a relationship. being single, you don't have to worry about pleasing anyone in a relationship sense and that in itself is a tremendous task. so scratch that off the list. being single allows you to flirt, go out, date different people without feeling guilty. you aren't tied down or committed to anyone. i know it's cheesy/corny but you don't have to buy dinner, presents, flowers, gifts for the holidays, etc.

sure it can be lonely at times but those are the times you learn the most about yourself. and i think the best advice anyone can give about a relationship is that you need to comfortable and happy with who you are before you can find happiness in someone else. although, that person SHOULD NOT be your only source of happiness. relying on someone that heavily isn't fair to either of you and isn't healthy.

go out, be single, live it up, and enjoy it. before you know it, you will probably end up back in a relationship missing and wondering where all the freedom went.

Answer 4

I have been separated from my husband for three to four year and have went into a number of relationships. Now I am enjoying being alone for the first time in my life. It is hard in the beginning and you feel lonely at first. But dating and dancing and knowing that you don't have to answer anyone questions is alot of fun. Being single is like being free. I enjoy my life better.

Answer 5

I love being single. Not so that I can live the 'wild' life - but I don't mind it less than being in a relationship. This is because I like who I am and I cam comfortable with myself. It si because I do not rely on others' attention to validate my own person.
And I think it is because I have found 'myself' that I am rarely single - because guys, and others in general, like being with someone who knows who they are.

People who bounce from relationship to relantionship with an almost fearful avoidance of 'aloneless' (different to loneliness, I might add) I think are often not comfortable with themselves, or need attention to feel good about themselves, without letting this self-assuredness come from within.

Answer 6

sometimes its hard to be single.. there is nothing good about being single and I would totally prefer having a girl over not having one.. I just like the company i like to know that someone out there cares for me when no one else will.. i like the fact that i can share everything with the girl that i like and she wont judge like most would i like the fact that being there for me is what she is about and the same goes back to her

Answer 7

single life is the best


its the time when u learn so much bout ursleve

and u keep growing and matureing



the emptyness suckes though..hehe



but i think its the best experiance ever...


well single life ..its not gonna be long


so y not enjoy it for the moment


and enjoy the ride as welll



=)

Answer 8

That is so true i got alot of friends that can not be single at all.
but as for me i luv the single life and i got no problem with it . yes it's nice to be in a relationship but at the point i am in my life i prefer to be single. AIN"T NO SHAME IN THAT

Answer 9

My aunt is that way. I think its the fear of being alone that makes them jump into a relationship so soon. I think that they feel unloved sometimes. They need someone there to tell them that they love them.

Answer 10

Being single is cool, but after a while there's a desire for companionship and of course the sex. Sure you can have casual sex, but I prefer being in a relationship to have sex.